It is worse this year. I just had to move and was expecting it, I looked forward to it. Most of my family are scattered across the US. I've been married 27 years and have one child. How do I get out of this? I'm on the verge of tears even when I had to decorate.
2006-12-07 09:27:28 · 22 answers · asked by ajkoolkats 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm sorry you have to go through this. I know this is going to sound weird but if you live where sunshine is limited part of the problem may be lack of sunshine or whatever it is that sunshine gives you. You can make up for at least a little of that at a tanning place. Then you may be better equipped to try a completely new approach to the holidays. I too have been married for 27 years with no family around and throughout that time we have always tried to celebrate the holidays in different ways so that they don't become boring or overwhelming. I have always found that it is the new things you do that keep the excitement in the holidays. I hope this helps. Good Luck.
2006-12-07 09:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by tpbthigb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a homeless shelter, retirement home, women's shelter, elementary school or church and volunteer some time to people that really need help. Get involved with a charity like UNICEF or the American Cancer Society and be in contact with other people that have the spirit of giving all year instead of just during the holidays. Do some reading, start a book club, learn a hobby. The most important thing for you to do is get outside yourself and live. I have felt exactly like you do many times before but now that I see how negative that behavior was to my own psyche I learned to not be so self absorbed and to open my heart and life to others.
This is to Sabine E - put an add in your local newspaper and have a party for 'people without families in town', there are many people thinking exactly what you are and would love an invitation. The other option would be for you to have a wonderful dinner with your husband and then spend the rest of the day volunteering at a homeless shelter with people that not only don't have a family but don't have a home to go to.
Have a wonderful, magical holiday to everyone!
2006-12-07 09:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That the truth when first I branched out alone it was fine except the holidays. Working constantly, staying busy as possible helps a lot I would work till time to hit the bed and be So tired fall to sleep.
Other ways of forgetting never last more than couple of hours & have undesired side effects! Had some family and when hit bottom call remind yourself there are loved ones out there - let them know that apart they are still in you heart!! This will make both of you feel better.
2006-12-07 09:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm kind of alone, and have decided to exercise a lot, limit my sugar, and just kind of think about what my goals are for the new year. I'm married and have no family or kids, so even though it'll just be my husband and me, I have decided we'll have a GOOD dinner, and this year we'll actually get a tree! I wish there was a network for "family-free" people to get together over the holidays. I'd love to be able to go to a house party, invite people over for eggnog, have a cookie-exchange... but I don't know where, who or how.
I was also thinking I'd go to church for the 2nd time in my life at Christmas.... I'm not a churchy type, but I'm almost desperate for things to do!
2006-12-07 09:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn, i'm under a lot of holiday stress myself, but it's not only during the holidays, I get stressed and depressed all through out the year, just when the holidays come, it makes me more stressed, worrying about what i'm gonna do for everybody, you know. My family lives 2 hours away from me, so I get all worried about it, but I can't really go see them because of my car, it acts like it will break down on me, so I have been alone on the holiday seasons, this really isn't a solution to your answer, but it helps you know you aren't alone. I hope all goes well for you and TTYLZ.
2006-12-07 11:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by It's MIRANDA!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 05:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't depend on the others to make your holiday special.
You can volunteer to help those who are worse off.
Make sure you call your family. They miss you too.
Remember it is just a day and life can be as good as you make it. It gets hard sometimes I know but if you let it get you down and defeat you you will be even more depressed..
2006-12-07 09:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by keith s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get busy helping others so that you don't feel sorry for yourself anymore. Get involved in the local soup kitchen, local poor children, community centers, foundations etc...Helping others is very rewarding, and it will give you a purpose. It would be like you decorating the community center instead of for yourself for needy kids that aren't as lucky as you to have a marriage, a home, and a child, they have nothing and every little bit that comes from others helps. Please try this, in the beginning it may be alittle weird because you feel funny doing something like this but it gets easier trust me
2006-12-07 09:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by krystal c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend alot of time with friends, and stay in contact with your family often. Maybe your family could get together every Christmas time at a certain relatives house, or invite the rest of your family to fly in to your new house for the holidays.
2006-12-07 09:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by italia456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some volunteer work for those less fortunate at the holidays, not only will it keep you busy and less focused on your own problems it will give you a sense of good will having done something for someone else in need this time of year.
2006-12-07 09:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Marj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋