i told my bf from the start im not in a rush to have relations im a virgin and he been waiting for me since december of last year now he is tellin me that im not fulfilling he needs and etc. but he already nows that i want to be married first
2006-12-07 09:26:06 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Marriage first is silly. If you are 18 it is ok to enjoy sex and he is right. If not yet 18 then you have a perfect right to hold out. Just tell him you think you should wait until you are older. If he loves you he can masturbate and take care of his own needs. Kisses Betty.
2006-12-07 09:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not wrong! You have done everything right! You told him from the start that you want to be married first. He is a jerk if he is trying to make you feel guilty for "making him wait" and "not fulfilling his needs". If he really cared about you, he would not be doing that to you. Tell him you are not changing your mind, and if he wants to find someone else to fulfill his needs, he can go do that, but you will not be waiting for him if he comes back. Major props to you for standing your ground and having respect for yourself and your body! You will find a man someday who will treasure the gift you have to give him!
2006-12-07 17:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by MandaPanda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend do not feel the same way about sex and marriage, then neither of you can be happy and fullfilled. If he needs sex to feel fulfilled, then you are not the person to fulfill him. However, on the other hand if YOU need to NOT have sex before marriage in order to be happy, then having sex with him prior to marriage will leave YOU unhappy. Unless you find a man who feels the same way as you about sex before marriage, this will always happen to you (unless you marry the guy within a few months of knowing him, which is usually a bad idea).
2006-12-07 17:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
first of all it depends on your age but only a total imbecile would want to wait until marriage, there are so many things wrong with it it is absurd.
people change after sex, especially the first time, and if you aren't good in bed then why would anyone want to marry you. It isn't the whole package but it is an important part.
You need to know that you are sexually compatible with the guy you are dating.
What if he likes to do something that you don't? And it is absolutely necessary for him to do it because he is a weird freak?
wouldn't you want to know that before you marry?
Don't be an idiot, he is right to wait a year for sex shows that he really loves you, you need to reciporicate or you have lead him on and wasted his time.
2006-12-07 17:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU need to be ready. If he can't accept that he is not for you. One of the signs of love is that you are only concerned with the well-being of the person, and if you think that sex won't be good for you he oghta know better than rushing you into it. If he can't handle celibacy truth is he belongs with someone else not with you. That doesn't make him a bad person though, just different than you.
2006-12-07 17:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by Wild_Lilly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
umm kind of hard to give you advise on that... When you have sex with the person you love is just magical and it doesnt really matter if you are married or not,but if you dont feel ready to do then dont. You cant give into his presures and leave aside your moral believes just because he wants to have some sex. You are putting your relationship at risk and risk of losing him, but if waiting is what you want to do, then he will just have to wait or kick him to the curve and move on.
2006-12-07 17:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl no you not wrong. If you want to save yourself until you are married, then go ahead. Because that is the right thing to do. I wish i would have made that choice. If he doesn't like it, then tell him to find someone else. Don't lower your standards down for anyone. Keep your head up.
2006-12-07 17:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Bout It 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think you're wrong. He knew from the start how you felt about sex before marriage. More power to you, but I'm pretty sure that he expected you to crack after a while. Most women give in after a while.
2006-12-07 17:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by basmusiq 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not wrong at all. You told him since the begining and after a year he decides that you aren't fulfilling his needs? that just goes to show he was in it to see if he could get it or not. move on, he isn't worth your time
2006-12-07 17:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're not wrong but neither is he. He's being honest with you. Do you want him to lie? Do you want to be wondering why when he leaves? It's great to find all this stuff out before you get married.
What great goal are you trying to achieve by withholding sex? Generally women who withhold sex do it because they don't like sex. There is NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT, but it's important to be honest, especially if you expect this guy to marry you someday.
2006-12-07 17:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋