my girlfriend says she feels like she is too dominant.... what should i do?

Question

My girlfriend says she gets bored when she feels like she is in control. She feels like her parents were not controlling enough and they were not strong enough. She says she wants me to be more dominant but I find that to do so, I feel like I have to spend more money and time to do so, I feel like I have to put a lot more energy into the relationship. I think she was just a spoiled child and she grew up not having to worry about money, so how do I be more myself and show her I still care about her without overspending or letting her feel like she is walking all over me? We have been dating about 3 months and I am a training doctor and I don't have a lot of time outside work... In fact it is hard enough to simply make time for her let alone myself. I feel like if I ignore her though she will feel neglected, I feel like what she wants is more time but also I feel hard to grow as my own person when I have little time for myself... it is complicated, no?

Answer 1

What does she want you to beat her and tell her who she can and can't talk to. Maybe you should take a break from each other. Sounds like you are juggling way too mnay things right now and she doesn't really understand that. Don;t get me wrong if you want to be in a relationship, it will cost you your precious time and money ( ocassionally). Tell her this is who you are and you want things to work out but you don't feel it's necessary to change how dominant you are to make the relationship better. Ask her if she wants you to take control why doesn't she just let it go.

Answer 2

Being in control has nothing to do with time or money. Your girlfriend is no different then most women, they want a man who brims with self-confidence. Being in control of every situation shows that you're self-confident and you go for and get what you want. This is what I believe your girlfriend is talking about. Take control of the situation at hand. If you want to kiss your girlfriend, don't ask whether or not it's ok to kiss her, just kiss her. If you're planning an event, don't keep looking to her for the answers, take control and plan the event. Same can be said for your love life, if you want to change positions in bed, don't ask her if it's ok, just turn her over.

Good luck.