I am not asking if you think this would ever happen, but what if, despite your best efforts, your child grew up and became unabashedly gay? As in they don't believe being gay is a choice, they believe that they are gay and always were, and don't believe that they can be "cured," or even need to be.
What would you do? Please explain as much as posible. Thanks.
2006-12-07 09:24:42 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
jinenglish68, how would you "not accept" his or her lifestyle? Not invite your child and their partner to family events? What?
2006-12-07 09:27:57 · update #1
I would love the child that God had given me. I would hope to be involved in his/her lives, know the people he/she loves. My only worry would be that the jerks and liars who cherry-pick the Bible to justify their already existing hatred would harm my child.
But then, I am a liberal Christian.
2006-12-07 09:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Bad Day 7 · 11⤊ 3⤋
Loving you child shouldn't be a choice, it should come naturely. I don't think homosexuality is acceptable, and I hate IT, not homosexuals. God loves everyone, but if we choose to practice something that is clearly aganist the bible, how can we expect the God of the bible to accept them? The scriptures are plain concerning this subject.. 1Corinthians 6:9-11 makes this clear, and verse 11 says,That is what some of you WERE. Showing they can change. It's true that a person could be born with those tendencys, but that dosen't mean they have'ft to practice that lifestyle. Yes, I would love my child, but I could never accept those practices. Arum
2006-12-07 09:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by arum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love my sons as always. My only worry would be their happiness in life. I don't know any gay men that live in a fulfilled partnership. They always struggle. As a Christian I must say, everybody has their own sins to care about. We are all not perfect. Who ist to say which sin is greater that the other? I have a friend since childhood and he is gay. Thinking back to our schooldays I know now the signs have been there very early. I'm sure he did not choose to become gay. But I think it has something to do with his inner beliefs and his childhood
2006-12-07 10:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sternchen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading some responses, tt's amazing to me that people NEVER question their conditioning. Leviticus has the anti-gay stuff in there because Jews wanted to divinely mandate procreative sex to increase their numbers. Paul put it in his letters (in the NT) because he was conditioned by his Jewish, Leviticus-based culture. I've seen people post the weird Leviticus 'sins' (such as wearing clothes of 2 different weaves) and many respond saying that was meant for Israel (old law) -- and yet the anti-gay stuff remains (!). When we look at the fact that the gospels were just the most popular version of MANY interpretations of Jesus' message, it gets even more ludicrous. And despite these facts, people NEVER question these things. Conditioning is so horrible -- because it's the foundation of our identities and to question these thing is perceived as questioning who they are. If we don't question, how do we expect a Muslim terrorist to ever question the legitimacy of his belief that he'll get eternal reward for blowing up kids on a bus? But we get major denial here and all you'll see is parrot answers....
2006-12-07 09:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This did happen to me. I raise all my children in the Church and my oldest boy told me he was gay when he moved away from home at age 22yrs. I was sad and I couldn't speak about it for a couple of days. Since that time my Christians friends support me with their love and prayers. My son is still the apple of my eye, we share a close relationship and I love him dearly. I told him that it is not the life I would have chosen for him, but that I would always love him. My son accept Christ when he was about 12 yrs old and he still believes in Jesus, but does not go to Church. I have left it in God's hands and just love my son.
2006-12-07 09:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by angel 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd love him/her selflessly as much as humanly possible, pray for him/her, share my opinion when asked, etc. I'm not sure there's much else a Christian parent could do in such a situation. We believe (or at least are supposed to believe) that conviction is the job the Holy Spirit, not the parent.
2006-12-07 09:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by KDdid 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would treat him/her like my child.Just because he/she liked someone of the same sex,it doesn't mean I have to treat the child like she/he is undeserving of love.Our beliefs may be different,but I that doesn't mean we can not be family.I am not a mother yet(hey,being 14 with a baby would not be very fun),but that is a very personal decision and path for a child to choose.I would not like it,but I would still support my kid,because I would like the same support in return when I need it.
2006-12-07 09:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Myaloo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love my child no matter what but I would pray like crazy. I am Catholic and one of my best friends is Gay, I love him like family, I don't agree with his sexual choices but I also accept his partner in my home. I love both of them, they are human and we all have faults and fall short of God's will. I don't judge but I also don't inquire about their lifestyle. Afterall I am not perfect either.
2006-12-07 09:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by NandA91 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My children know I am not keen on the whole homosexual lifestyle. But they also know that I am not going to turn them out for the choice of partner they make. I would voice my disapproval at first I am certain, but I would get over it quickly and welcome anyone who treats my child with the dignity, love and respect that he/she deserves. That to me is the bottom line. I do not want nor need to know what my children do with their signifigant other in the privacy of their own bedroom. I certainly do not share my husbands and my sexual side with them.
2006-12-07 09:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First, they would know the truth about homosexuality being a sin and that God can deliver them from that sinful lifestyle. Secondly, I would put my arms around him and tell him how much I love him and that I always will.
2006-12-07 14:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would accept it as long as he did not bring home a black boyfriend.... (Just kidding)
I am gay and when I told my very liberal mother she freaked, told me that was impossible and that it was just a phase....now she says she loves me "even though I am gay" as if there is something wrong with being gay.
Being gay is not a choice, accepting yourself and having a happy fulfilling life is. Be supportive!!!
2006-12-07 09:40:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋