its pathetic i know, but it kinda hurts. this guy ive been friends w/ for five years and i have been bonding lately, he says a lot of the things i want to hear, but not necesarily to get in my pants, theres more to it than that, we enjoy each others company. i sent him a package but nothing serious , just a book and a some ..kool aid (he asked for it..lol)
anyway i feel like im really falling for him. but he wrote me an email saying "thanks for being a good friend and a sexy woman"
what the hell? :( i dont get it.
2006-12-07 09:24:33 · 13 answers · asked by happybeanstalk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're jumping the gun here. He can't possibly MAKE you fall in love with him! You have to know that you've been friends with him a long time, so it may be a big step for him to just jump into a relationship with you. This is a big deal because he may not want to step into a realtionship and risk losing a good friend. This takes time, be a good friend and flirting a little is fine, but if you really feel like you want to be more than friends than talk to him about it. Casually say one day- "do you think I'd make a good girlfriend-why" well have you ever thought of me in that way. MAKE SURE TO KEEP IT LIGHT, that way if you don't get the answer that you want to hear you can always laugh it off and make a joke, Like if he says I think your a great person but I just don't see you like that- you can say-" well I am a great person ain't I-with a big smile and a model pose, then lightly laugh it off. At least you'll know but don't take it in stone because that question might get him thinking about you in a whole new way;) just give it time!
2006-12-07 09:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by moks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Well if you have feelings for your friend I think the most honest thing that can be said is to ask him is there a chance for romance before you fall to deep and yes it does hurt because I am experiencing the same thing right now . The only thing that stands between you and your feelings is to find out how he feels about you .
2006-12-07 09:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he says what you want to hear from him? I mean does he tell you that maybe you are the person for him? If yes then maybe there will be a chance that you two will end up with each other but if he behaves only as a friend behaves than you should move on and keep him as a friend
2006-12-07 09:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dianne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe at first he thought you were going to be someone different then who you really are. Or you changed. Did you do something wrong or mean? Has he changed his personality recently? Does he have struggles in his life right now? You should probably ask yourself a few questions or talk to him about it. Ask him why he want just be "just friends". And tell him your feelings about him...
hope that helps.
2006-12-07 09:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly all guys r jerks
once they know yr available
they stop caring about you
some advice always play hard to get
and never let a guy know your availble
and never be his doormat
and dont be to clingy
he means that like ur hot buh he only likes you as a friend n nothing more
or it cud mean that he just needed you at that time
it can mean a million things
i think you should email him bak asking him what he ment by sexc women
2006-12-07 09:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by xpishix 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually... if he didn't say I love you outfront straight out to you... then he didn't "make" you fall in love with him. It sounds like you have more expectations of hoping and waiting for something to lead towards more than friends. He sounds like a sweet guy... always complimenting you, but if he doesn't ask you to be his girlfriend then... you shouldn't be hurt at all.
2006-12-07 09:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by ♪ ms_kk ♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sees you as his friend and a Woman ,, Honey that is a good thing ... Not all men see their friends as women its just so and so one of the guys ..
Ask him how he truley feels about you you know him better then you think and won't take bull crap from him and he knows it...
2006-12-07 09:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that sounds like he only wants to be your friend. He said you're sexy, too, right? When you're in a relationship with someone, it's important to be friends, as well.
2006-12-07 09:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by jaye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is being ambiguous maybe he wasn't expecting you'd respond to his flirting. sometimes is just chemistry but it doesn't lead to a relationship. you can ask him to define the grounds.
2006-12-07 09:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do so many women do it? Women toy with guys emotions all the time.
2006-12-07 09:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋