I am 24 and want to move out to go to college. I live with my Dad and my mom is mostly with my brothers on the otherside of the USA. (Parents are happy, tho, just my brothers were going so far that my mom wanted to be there). But I do not know what to tell my parents. I am worried that my Dad will be all alone...he has said stuff like "now that I'm old I want to be with my family." My sister lives like 20 mins away with her kids, but visits 3-4 a month. My Mom told me to wait until she comes back with my brothers--which will be in 2008-2009. I can't wait that long. I feel bad for wanting to ditch my Dad, but I feel that I need to do my own thing. I have hinted at moving out, but my parents think I am going to stay in the same town. I do not want to stay in this town. I am applying to NYC and want to move there. Should I stay or go? Should I feel bad about my Dad? Should I tell my sister to live with my Dad?
2006-12-07 09:21:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You obviously care very much about your family. However, you ALSO need to care as much about your own life and personal development. If not, you will resent them later in life (or not so later in life) for not letting you live the life you want to life.
If your parents are as loving as they seem to be, they will support and encourage you... even if they have to deal with some sadness at your absence. This reactions would be healthy and normal, and you should NOT feel guilty!
Also, it's not up to you to dictate where your sister lives but I bet she would be a good listening ear as you weigh out your decisions.
Cheers : )
2006-12-07 09:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by Gryphon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think your mom should live with your dad and let your brothers do their own thing. If they are old enough that is. If they are not then she should either bring them back to where your dad is or he should move there. Either way it isn't your responsibility to take care of him and live with him that is your mom's place. I say get on with your life. IF you don't you will regret it later.
2006-12-07 17:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are overdue for moving out. Besides you will be moving out to go to college and persue a career. Your dad will just have to understand that its time for you to go and live your life. At some point he did too. You cant put your life on hold for your mom or dad or brothers and sisters. Good luck.
2006-12-07 17:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should definately follow your dreams....you are not responsible for anyone else's happiness, and it would be selfish for anyone to ask you to hold off on living your life.....promise your folks that you'll visit when you can and call as much as possible....you can write and send lots of pictures to help with the transition....and they can certainly visit you whenever they get a chance!!.....let go of the guilt and the apron strings, and start living!
2006-12-07 17:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to move on with your life,if your dad is that lonely then your mom need to move back he is her husband. and why on earth did she move to where your brothers are? that lady needs to cut the apron strings!! also if he is that lonely he can go to where your mom is. live your life.
2006-12-07 17:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by here to help 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell them
2006-12-07 17:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just say wat u want 2 say!
2006-12-07 17:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by fashiongirlcute 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋