How, without the dating scene do you find a compatible partner?

Question

I am really tired of surface conversations in meaningless discussion, there must be some way to get straight to the point, do you like this, are we on the same page, down to earth absolute honesty about sex, family, the future, goals, real life. Someone somewhere must have an answer?

Answer 1

When people go to bars their in party-mode, you can find someone to party with. If you want a life partner it's best if you meet them when their in life-mode, like in a super market. It's more exciting when I'm flirting with someone in a supermarket because I know I stand a better chance at getting a date. I give them my number and say, "Don't be afraid to call me anytime you want." We usually end up talking on the phone by the end of the evening .

Answer 2

Internet dating sites.

Yes, I know they have a tacky reputation, but they offer exactly what you are looking for. Look for the ones where you can post a detailed profile of likes, dislikes etc - preferably one where you have a chance to write a paragraph or two about yourself. I've always found that the way those paragraphs are written, tell me as much about the person as the content! So that means, as you say, that when you meet the person you already know a lot about their views on family, sex, goals etc.

Have a look at this Australian site, which is a good example.

Sure, there are people on the site who will tell lies about themselves. You'll see photos that are several years out of date, incorrect ages, etc. But there are also a lot of really genuine people on the site - you just have to be determined to sort through the dross to find the gold.

If you were looking to buy a house, you wouldn't get discouraged if the first 10, 20, or even 30 houses weren't quite what you wanted, would you? So I can never understand why people get discouraged when they don't like the first two or three people they meet through a dating site. After all, finding your life partner is a much more important search than finding a house!

The key to success is, don't waste time with email relationships. If you see someone you like, make contact, give her your number and suggest meeting for a coffee or a drink in a neutral place. If the woman resists a face-to-face meeting, be suspicious that she's hiding something. She's probably older, or fatter, or uglier, than her photo suggests! So don't get sucked in to a long email exchange - if she won't agree to meet up reasonably soon, dump her and move on.

I'm sure if you post a question asking how many people met their husband or wife on an internet dating site, you'd get lots of positive answers. Including me!

Answer 3

I wish I new the exact answer. But you have some strong important facts. I agree every bit with you.