When me and my boyfriend go out with our group of friends..one of my mates (who in my opinion is more attractive and has a better personality than me) will be there, and I'll sometimes catch my bf gazing at her and checkin her out.... And just last night he was touching her and gently hitting her on the face right in front of me!! And it really pisses me off...do you guys think he likes her? And how do I stop being so possessive and jealous...I've even askd him if I thought she waz pretty but he said he didn't...and I don't know if he lied to me or what..and at some points I'v wantd 2 blurt out 'If you like her that much why dont ya just go out with her?!'..but i'v somehow managed to hold back my urges lol
2006-12-07 09:18:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a natural thing to be jealous esp. when you feel like your lover is all over someone else. Bite your toungue as much as you can but say the things that need to be said. Let him that you are aware of your possesiveness but that you would appreciate it if he was less flirty with your friends at least in your presence. In the mean time work on yourself. Think about how you lived before him and how you can live with out, he's not your happiness he's an added bonus. it makes his "actions" less intense in your mind. Coach yourself think before saying anything regarding the matter. He may like her, he may not it sounds flirty to me btu then again i know I am possessive of my boyfriend... but he gets upset when it;'s my problem and it becomes his fault so I just shut up and try not to even look because something so small like talking to a coworker could easily be blown out of proportion in my head. Stop caring. pretend it doesn't bug you and then eventually you'll start acting that way.
2006-12-07 09:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately guys check out other women without even being aware they are doing it, sometimes. If (or I should say when, because it will happen daily) he does that, it doesn't mean he is wanting to be with another girl. Hell my wife catches me looking a girls a$$es all the time. She laughs at me because sometimes I don't even realize I did it until she teases me about it.
All you can do is be confident in who you are and if he decides he wants to be with someone else, there will be nothing you can do about it. I know that sounds harsh, but it is the straight truth. If you are always getting jealous and asking him about her, or any other woman/girl, all you will do is irritate him and likely push him toward someone else.
Just laugh it off and tease him about it. That will let him know you aren't worried and that is actually very attractive. A jealous, over bearing woman is the most unsexy woman in the world.
2006-12-07 17:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nuts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one thing is to work on self confidence regardless if it is for your boyfriend. You are just as beautiful as your friend... what qualities are you questioning about yourself? This is something that you would need to work on because it can be a long life change and correction... please work on building your self confidence of who you are... knowing you are wonderful in the inside and confident of who you are instead of saying... "she's prettier then me."
Please don't blurt out anything to your boyfriend or your friend... if you don't see it or catch anything... then you shouldn't feel the way you do. Please no accussations because that can lead you to losing your boyfriend and wanting another one... starting that cycle... so please hear me out... work on you first... on your confidence and outlook of who you are...
Good luck.
2006-12-07 17:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ ms_kk ♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is likely you bieng insecure, if he was just joking around with her and his touching isn't sexual or sensual then you are wrong and bieng insecure.
If you open your mouth without good reason, then you will drive him away.
Get a handle on your insecurity. See a shrink if need be. Not just for him, for you because if you are insecure here, then it is almost guaranteed you are now or that it will creep into other areas of your life and ruin your life.
Get over it.
2006-12-07 17:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST STOP. Possessiveness is just going to make him want to distance himself from you. If you really want to get the upper hand--then just seriously dont care what he does. If you can pull this off for awhile--he'll going be dying to spend time with you.
2006-12-07 17:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by gm_snin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugg get rid of oh him! he is hitting on your friend?? he is not worth your time. But if you love him then you should tell him how you feel and that it is hurting you. If he loves you back he will stop. plus ur friend should not let him be doing that either.
2006-12-07 17:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Pinks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's flirting with her, obviously, so you need to address that with him. If you think she's prettier than you, then he does too. Have confidence in yourself and he'll like that.
2006-12-07 17:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋