i used to have tones of girls that were friends and i stopped talkign to them all because they were all girls that i wanted to be with and was scared that i might lose my girlfriend that i loved so much and then after a couple of months ; my girlfriend used to have more guy friends than girl friends and she knew i didn't liek that so she slowly stopped talking to them, i trust her i love her so much but while we were going out the first party she had she invited her ex boyfriend and flirted with hium the whole night! it was so upsetting and hurtful but i dealt with it because i love her. but now i am overprotective because she dresses provocative and lieks to dance and do gymnastics but everything she does like that it makes me mad an woried am i out of line? please help me
2006-12-07 09:17:54 · 13 answers · asked by Mike H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to upset you any more than you already are but I really don't think either of you is ready for an exclusive relationship with each other.
Real love is built on trust and a desire to please the object of your affections. If she were ready for a steady relationship she wouldn't be dressing provocatively and doing things that she knows upsets you.
Think seriously about how you are feeling. Do you want to feel this way the rest of your life? You will, if you continue as a couple with this girl.
From your letter, I am seeing two people more in love with idea of having a steady lover, than a real love for the person. It would be to your advantage to break off the steady thing and see other girls as you used to. The only thing this relationship is bringing you is heartache and misery. After you are more mature you will see this as a learning experience.
2006-12-07 09:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by lothespiritalker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of the things you listed are what attracted you to her to begin with, correct? Do you really want her to change those things? We all change over time. If you can articulate what is hurting you, and learn to separate her from the thing, such as it's not the dancing that makes you mad, it's how she looks in that dress while she's dancing. Perhaps if you choose just the one thing that really bothers you the most, and talk to her about that,
not with anger but just say, "Sweetie, I love the way you look in that dress, can you make it something special that you wear just for me?" Let her be the individual you fell in love with.
2006-12-07 09:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by DisIllusioned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cyrus is nice. I knew a sort married guy who did not opt to paintings on some thing yet video games, perchance some chores were given thrown in by the years to dodge fights about operating, and became completely the alternative of each and every area he reported to his spouse earlier getting married. That guy's spouse had all kinds of fellows desirous to guard her or recommend her. those adult males did no longer have crushes on her or some thing coz she became no longer quite weigh down fabric for most, even with the undeniable fact that it became exciting to video reveal that such quite some adult males are the way you requested about, yet there are some who're no longer. it may look that it truly is probable a discovered trait. If a boy is taught that adult males are to grant and preserve the ladies human beings of their lives, and likewise make confident they don't get curious about issues that ought to damage the kinfolk's pastimes (funds, life, and so on.) , they'll advance up reliable and desirous to attempt this for the duration of their own lives. yet in the journey that they don't. You get the internet sport adult males who imagine it really is okay to enable the different halves/girlfriends paintings or examine in for welfare at the same time as they only play of their own fart air.
2016-11-24 21:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to back off. You will only drive her away if you are possessive. I cannot stand receiving flowers from a guy now because the guy I dated for a year and a half brought me flowers each and every day. Sometimes it was a single flower, sometimes more. I am sooo sick of flowers, I could scream.
He never liked me going out with my friends, and when I did he'd follow me and "pretend" to run into me.
When we broke up, I had to call the cops because he wouldn't leave me alone and it really creeped me out.
In short, you are going to lose her if you don't back off...give her a little breathing space and trust her.
2006-12-07 09:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's normal, trust me. most people can't shake the jealousy feeling, which I still have yet to conquer. You just want her to be with you, and that is how it should be. however, if you trust her give her a little more space. you should only be worried about something if she doesn't tell you about it and you find out. I know it is upsetting, I would be upset to. But talk about it, communication is the key to any healthy relationship
2006-12-07 09:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by xstraight_edge_emo_kidx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to consider your young yet and havent' experinced everything there is in life .. Though she shouldn't invited her ex and the way she dresses just says she wants more then you have to offer her...
It seems just down the road she going to be cheating on you man.. Forwarning
2006-12-07 09:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like she went from bad to worse...I don't think your being over protective. (or out of line) And if she is flirting with her ex she must not be a very good girlfriend **sorry**. I would keep a close eye on her.
2006-12-07 09:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Hunty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mike
If your GF is being slutty its understandable why you may be jealous I would be hurt too if my guy was flirting with his ex girlfriend so talk to her and tell her how you feel
2006-12-07 09:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I don't blame you because first of all why she invite her ex boyfriend. When she has you I think you should talk to her about it first. Let her know how you feel.
2006-12-07 09:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a right to be jealous! If she starts hitting on other guys, then you should break up with her. I read a book where this happened to a girl.
2006-12-07 09:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by gumchewer_7_7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋