and i didn't have any money for a ring..but she said yes and now were engaged..i know its a shitty way..but i love her and thats all that should matter right?
2006-12-07 09:17:13 · 20 answers · asked by Matt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Right. As long as she loves you, and you love her, she'll wait until it's financially feasible to get a ring, since it's just a symbol anyways.
2006-12-07 09:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to be honest. Painfully so. Get a ring. NOW. It doesn't have to cost much, $100-$300. It's not how much it costs it the act of taking the time to get one and present it as a symbol/token of your love.
My husband proposed w/o a ring. I didn't honestly care that I didn't have an engagement ring. However, he showed me how cheap he really was when he wouldn't even buck up for a nice wedding band for when we were married. This caused hurt feelings between us.
I have included links to different sites that have reasonable prices and a pretty little ring too.
2006-12-07 10:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly. My husband and I did not have much money when we got married so my wedding set was a affordable sterling silver ring with CZ stones. This year, he suprised me with a white gold diamond wedding band - a $600 wedding band to replace the $30 one I have been wearing for 7 years. In the future, he hopes to replace the engagement ring with a real one to, but while I love my new ring, it does not mean mroe then the first one did. Of course, if we had had money, and he just didn';t want to spend it on me, that would havebeen a different story!
2006-12-09 09:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you!!!
My sister and her hubby have been married for 7 years (she is pregnant with their first baby right now) and they didn't do the engagement ring thing. Important to note is that they did discuss this beforehand though, that both of them wanted to put the money towards the wedding, tuition, etc rather than a diamond ring.
If you and your girlfriend/fiance haven't talked about this matter honestly, then I suggest doing so. At least you'll know her feelings about it... and her opinion is the only one that REALLY matters! Even if she is a bit sad about not having the ring, at least you know the truth and can maybe save up money to give her one for one of your anniversaries down the road : )
Best wishes with the engagement and marriage! : )
2006-12-07 09:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Gryphon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know when my husband proposed he got me a ring from a gum ball machine and from this day i still wear it. It should not matter if you can not get a ring at this time. She should under stand that. Knowing that to some females it is nice to have something to show to their girlfriends. But you have time before the wedding and you can always re proposed again with a ring when you do get one.
2006-12-11 07:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by semperfiwife18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm... no matter how broke you should have gotten some sort of ring.... Don't get me wrong I think its cute that your in love and all but if you couldn't afford a ring, how are you going to afford a wedding? And married life after the wedding??? I think its safe to say that when you get enough money to buy a ring, you do it all over again and propose the right way. Sorry!!!
2006-12-07 09:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its good that you both want to get married, but why not go ahead and buy her some sort of ring.... they sell inexpensive ones at wal mart... and re propose for christmas. Why not get her a white/yellow gold heart ring? It doesnt have to be diamonds, just something cute. It would just make it a bit more official and it will be a token of your love ( plus something for her to be able to show people when they ask about a ring, its easier to explain a cheap yet sweet ring than none at all)
2006-12-07 10:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You proposing is all that should matter. That's your way of saying you want to be with her for the rest of your life, and no ring can say that for you. Get her something like a simple band with a cute saying engraved inside, or do what my husband did and get on an upgrade plan so you can change it later if you want.
2006-12-07 09:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by Brit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is all that matters. On my wedding day my brand new hubby LOST my engagement ring. But you know what? I didn't care because we were married and it didn't matter. We did end up finding it, but I was so happy that it wouldn't have mattered even if we never found it. Good luck to you!
2006-12-07 19:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although the proposal was without a ring, if she said yes, making it official by giving her some sort of symbolic "something" to show you are engaged is traditional. Even if it is not the traditional "engagement ring" give her something to symbolize it.
2006-12-07 11:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by Say It Again M'am 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right! My cousin was engaged for over a year before he was able to buy his fiancee a ring. Don't sweat it, she loves you and she will understand. When you can afford the ring she will get it.
2006-12-07 09:46:34 · answer #11 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋