When the person you love most in the world, the person whom you worship and adore, seems remote and distant, how do you cope? How do you deal with the loneliness of not having them around as much? How do you deal with the feeling that your soul is dying?
2006-12-07 09:14:18 · 8 answers · asked by Bastet's kitten 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jen, I am a 30-year-old female, and I'm hardly a stick-thin tweeny emo twit. Serious question here, not concerned about my iPod or credit cards, thank you.
2006-12-07 09:24:24 · update #1
With difficulty, my hubby is away most nights of the week as he is a long distant lorry driver, I find it very hard to cope with out him, sometime i feel as though i'm having a relationship with a phone, and then when he comes home he is still distant.(sometimes). i find keeping myself busy somtimes help, but not that often, as i constantly think about and worry abouth him. Try doing different thing maybe getting a hobby, do something you ennoy and then if they see you getting on with thing and you are so fixated with there remoteness they might pay you more attention.
Or just have a word and say they are being distant and ask them y!!
2006-12-07 09:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never feel that way, ever. I know exactly what ur going through bc thats where i am right now. Its really hard and depressing, but figure out who u are first. When u do you wont need anyone else. A relationship at that point would be extra, a sort of added bonus to life, but not life itself. Dont live ur life around another person, live ur life according to who YOU are. You should consider your feelings first. its not being selfish its just finding out who you really are, hint: find a hobby. Pick ur chin up and keep on moving foward.
2006-12-07 17:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Stuart P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you have an unhealthy relationship and mostly its coming from you. Everyone else is right, you need to stop worshipping, and start loving yourself and taking care of that person inside you who will never leave you. If you want to learn more about love, read "The Psychology of Love" at bookstores near you.
2006-12-07 17:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by mulderlx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop whorshipping another human being. If you have not learned by now, people will let you down. Give of yourself but don't give more than the other person is willing to give in return. Love is a two-way street. You can't truly love someone without them loving you back. One way love is called stalking.
2006-12-07 17:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Indulge. Wallow in your pain. Torment yourself to extreme. If you must, suffer to the hilt. Do not deny yourself the least bit of sorrow. Rub salt in the wound. Exaggerate, scream, howl, tear your clothes off, pull your hair. Bleed. Die and be born again. The more you try to avoid or deny suffering, the worse. The more intensely you truly suffer, the sooner you'll grow tired of this **** and move on. It also helps a lot if you can make him suffer along with you. If you really don't care for this kind of martyrdom, then don't indulge. Drop it this minute.
2006-12-07 17:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by carmelitacerda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quit the emo whining, stop worshipping a person and start developing some self esteem. You should never depend on your happiness to come from anywhere but within yourself.
2006-12-07 17:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say by being comfortable with yourself, your achievements and being your own person, seek the company of friends and family, get a sense of individuality and redefine your goals... You are too attached if your well-being depends on closeness to someone else
2006-12-07 17:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Wild_Lilly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let it go...your relationship is dead.
2006-12-07 17:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by rob l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋