What would you do if your kid was nasty to you a lot and started using drugs and than lied to you. And than he took your car without asking and left and didn't tell you where he went so the next morning you were late for work. And than you found out he left the doors on the car open all night with the keys in it. And that he would speed around with his friends. He quit work by just not going because he was lazy. And that he also just stopped going to school because he felt like it. And if he called you at 12 for a ride because he to dum to be out. And if he broke in the basement door twice just because he didn't have his keys. Tell me what you would do!!!
2006-12-07 09:06:31 · 14 answers · asked by Beaker891 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It would depend on his age.
If this is like a 15-year-old we're talking about, he needs intervention NOW. There's still time to change this. You need to go to a family counselor and tell them all these things. You also need to get help dealing with him ... ask a relative or neighbor to help you keep an eye on him. At that age you can put your foot down and DEMAND that he behave himself. The counselor can help with specifics, but really, he needs to be grounded immediately, change the locks on the doors and the ignition in the car so that if he has a key hidden he can't use it, forget work because that's the least of his problems, and personally escort him to school. Embarrass the hell out of him by scheduling a meeting with the principal and your district's truancy officer. Tell them both EVERYTHING and ask them to personally make sure your kid is at school every day. Drive him there yourself and walk him in every morning like you would a 3-year-old. And have someone there to pick him up BEFORE he gets out so he can't run off with his friends. He should never leave the house except for school or running errands with you ... and I hate to have to say so, but NEVER leave him in the car alone while you 'run in' somewhere.
If this is like an 18-year-old it's much simpler. Tough love. Shape up or GET OUT. Give him one more chance ... still go to the family counseling and everything to see what the heck his problem is. No more taking the car. He goes to school or gets a job. No going out at night. And absolutely NO breaking things. If he doesn't pick himself up by his bootstraps in two weeks, he's out. Just tell him to leave. Either he will turn out a drug dealer and hate you, or he will get himself in school and DO something with his life ... and if that's what happens being kicked out was the best thing and he'll love you more for it.
So it really depends. Is he underage? If so, do the first thing. If not, do the second thing. If he's underage and the first thing doesn't work, you could send him to a boarding school or something. If he's overage and the second one doesn't work ... i.e., he refuses to leave, call the police and they will MAKE him.
And BTW, if you try these things and he steals your car, or breaks in again, CALL THE POLICE and REPORT it. Being picked up by the cops a couple times might be a wake-up call. They will also pick him up if you know where he is when he's skipping school ... that's why I suggested meeting with the truancy officer.
Good luck.
2006-12-07 09:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously seek some profesional help. Any child no matter what age... with that type of attitude towards you, life and everything in general is obviously seeking attention. Yes, it is not the attention that he may not be wanting but, to him its at least some sort of attention from you or anyone. If you've tried talking to him and that don't seem to work, I suggest counseling. Possibly even family counseling. Not only do they help try to find the problem and a "cure", they also offer support. I only say this cause I used to do the same to my dad and we ended up going to family counseling.... it worked cause now... I'm not getting into all the trouble I used too, and I'm actually doing something with my life. I work, attend college, and I am married and have a family of my own now. My dad can actually say now that he is very proud of me. Hope all goes well and good luck.
2006-12-07 17:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by kimmysue1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would try to sit my kid down and try to find out what is behind the behaviour change besides the drug use. GET HELP! There are free services out there to help parents start conversations about drug usage. You may be also able to find free family counseling.
DO IT NOW!!!! Don't wait for your child to be be arrested, get hurt, hurt or kill someone or get killed themselves.
STAND FIRM! Use discipline, ground rules.
STAY INFORMED and INVOLVED - find out what is going on at school with your kids teachers and principals. Don't let you kid go anywhere where there are NOT PARENTS home. Know the parents, have all phone numbers and addresses.
You may have to do some TOUGH LOVE.
Seek help in your church parish if this is for you.
http://www.christophers.org/NN_404.html
This is a start...
2006-12-07 17:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by treeski 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. He would be put into a rehab facility
2. When he was done there he would go to Military School
3. When he was finished with school he would then work at
home to pay back for the damages he caused.
4. He would be required to get a job or he would find himself
without anything except the necessities.
**Necessities--Shelter, food, 7 outfits, a coat, and a pair a shoes.
2006-12-08 02:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old this "child" is, but he needs a good kick in the *** and maybe even a few nights in a jail cell. If my kid stole my car or broke my windows or doors, I'd press charges against him like I would a stranger.
That's uncalled for and if you enable this behavior it will only get worse.
2006-12-07 17:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you live in America there is a great program that can help it is called Job Corps. You have to be between 16 and 25 to enter and you live on a campus kinda like college and go to class kinda like high school but have lots of rules and restrictions like Jail. I went when i was 20 because they pay you to get your GED and you learn a useful Job skill. they even help you get a job when you graduate. I went of my own free will becauseit was best for me but i know lots of ppl that their parents or Judges made them go. They have counceling and things that help people with problems turn their lives around. You should look into it for your son. Tell him JOb Corps or the Marine Corp, let him choose. I saw alot of bad kids get turned around there. It is a government funded program and is free. www.jobcorps.com
2006-12-07 17:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by rose_calhoun23 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can go to court and have him declared incorrigable and they will put him in a juvenile facility and get him some treatment for whatever drugs he is using. And dont say hes not cause he problably is.
2006-12-07 17:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent, start and be one, ground him, take away mobile phone, get some help from social services before it is too late.
2006-12-10 22:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by Little miss naughty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have them thrown in Juvi hall for behaving like a criminal. If your car was stolen,Why didn't you call the police and report it as such?
2006-12-07 17:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by S.A.M. Gunner 7212 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him arrested and then ask the judge to send him to the Marine Corps.
2006-12-09 17:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by bonobo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋