I don't know if I do. I have a low opinion of myself sometimes and I just don't think that I really want someone to love me. It sounds strange, but that's what I feel. I think that since I'm a guy, it would view it as kind of embarassing for me to be in love with someone, and that I have to be tough and stay away from love, but then I have second thoughts about it. I'm just too conscious of what everyone else thinks. I am a jerk sometimes and I don't know if someone deserves that. I am not trying to be a jerk, but I have anger problems. Not like, I'm going to kill someone anger problems, but still.
2006-12-07 09:04:48 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I jsut kind of view love as an uncomforatble area in my life, but soemtimes I want to change that.
2006-12-07 09:07:00 · update #1
Yes Michael you do. Most people do have low opinions about themselves, you are your own worst critic but it's not embarrassing to be in love. It's kind-of refreshing. Don't worry about what everybody else thinks because it is your life not theirs. We all have our issues, anger, etc. You just have to accept people the way they are sometimes or you might never have the chance to find true love. (And Vise-versa)
2006-12-07 09:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe before you start wondering whether your ready for a realtionship you should address the anger issues you have, since those issues will carry into any relationship you have and will more then likely affect it negatively. It's not a weakness to love someone or for someone to love you. And if you go around caring too much about what someone you don't even know thinks of you, you're just gonna end up driving yourself crazy. Think of it like this: Does your neighbor pay your bills, does the person in front of you in a line up deal with you personal issues for you, does your co-worker make sure you get to bed at a decent hour? Nope, so why would anything they say or think matter in your eyes? If someone you don't know has something to say about you, when they have no idea who you are, or the things you've been through or done in your life, then to hell with them! The only people who matter are you, your family and the few people you choose to let into your life. Those are the people you should think about and consider when you wonder if your a good enough person.
2006-12-07 17:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by West_End_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey everyone in this universe deserve love and if you are a guy then this doesnt' mean that you don't but love exist in many forms , so make sure that your love should be more pious and very true. what ever the relation may be but there is alwys space for everyone to love each other and be loved by others .
well anger is not a problem,. this is also good, but at some times. if you keep on getting angry over triffles then it would be harmful and ppl. will devlop distaste for you. so don't let that condintion come and also think in a positive way which means that you are not a jerk. ok. self praise is also necessary to get love. god bless you.
2006-12-07 17:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by R. S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone deserves a chance at love, (as long as they're not a murderer or something). the fact that you acknowledge that you have anger problems, shows that you want to change. Being in love is not embarrassing if your a guy, in face it shows maturity. When you find someone that you love, you will do anything to be with them and not care what anyone else thinks. I know its hard to believe a this stage. Perhaps if you sought a councilor maybe e to talk this through with? Good luck and i really do hope it works out for you.
2006-12-07 17:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you deserve love. Everyone does. I assume you're a younger guy and just give it some time, you will find someone when you least expect it. In the mean time, just work on the anger thing, and don't be a jerk,serves no purpose. You will see when you find someone, your attitude will change.
good luck and god bless
2006-12-07 17:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by bobbie v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to say stop feeling sorry for yourself, but I know how your feel. On top of that, are you NUTS! Of course you deserve love. You say you're a jerk but I think that's entirely superficial. I gather from your question that you ARE sensitive and you ARE caring. Anyone would be insane to not want that from someone. As you get older you learn to love yourself flaws and all. Do some of that, and the rest WILL follow. Keep smiling.
2006-12-07 17:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by Voldi G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you deserve love, we all do. We also ALL have issues, and imperfections, that's what makes us human. When someone falls in love with you and they WILL, they'll love you for ALL of you. Flaws and all.
Do remember this though - you have to love yourself first before you can believe that anyone loves you. This comes from someone who's been where you are. I am a survivor of a very abusive man who just about defeated me, and when I first left him I thought VERY little of myself - but...I climbed, clawed and scratched my way back..now I think I'm tough, strong and I can handle anything life throws at me. If I can love myself honey, believe me - you can too.
Don't expect perfection from yourself..accept you for who you are, strengths AND weaknesses. As far as your anger problems, if it's really an issue check out anger management classes, they can work (they did for my son who's now 18)..
Gentle hugs, Lynn
2006-12-07 17:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you do, and everyone is a jerk some of the time, and that's just it you do have to put on a tuff exterior for everyone else but for that special someone you don't have to be tuff at all, you can be compleetly yourself around them and they love you even more for it, don't worry about what anyone else says not to mention you don't actually know what they would day first you need to find a girl that you like then give your friends a chance you never know what will happen
2006-12-07 17:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by sup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves love.
You should work on your anger problems. Everyone gets angry sometimes, but you control how you respond to your anger.
See a professional for help with the last part.
2006-12-07 17:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you deserve love. Not liking yourself does not mean you dont deserve it. Maybe what you are missing is a girl who tells you what you need to her to feel better about yourself, but of course she must be saying it from her heart and truly mean it. It takes a real man to not be afraid to say how he feels, and to open up. Any girl that loves you wont make you feel silly or stupid. Just realize that you are good enough, eventhough you dont feel like it sometimes. Just give it time.
2006-12-07 17:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by blearghll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋