He is addicted to computer games?

Question

my man is addicted to world of warcraft.
nothing can come between him and this awful game
it consumes all of his spare time, we never do anything together as couples anymore.
yesterday, i made a sexual advance to him, and he pushed me away because he was playing the game and was in the middle of a raid, and i almost got his character killed.
it made me feel like the game was more important than me.
what can i do?
i love him so much, and we have a great relationship, we never fight and usually he makes me feel really special.
but the more and more he plays world of warcraft, the less time he wants to spend with me. he can play this game for HOURS on end. he even wakes up thru the night to play it.

i dont want to break up with him because i know we love each other, i know we will work this problem out eventually.
im just scared that he will let this game control his life, he barely sleeps because he is always playing the game and its messing with his daily functions (work).
he walks in the door from work and gets straight on his computer and thats where he sits til its time to go to sleep.
i dont want to stop him playing it completely, i just want to know how i can ask him to cut back on the rediculous amount of time he spends playing it.
he rarely helps with the house work, and its becoming a real problem

Answer 1

This was so my husband!!! I hate it too. You probably don't have kids but when I told my husband that his children were feeling like WOW meant more than them he cancelled his subscription and we now play Pogo games...as a family!!

I think he probably needs to realize how this is hurting the relationship. Be straight up with him about it. He needs to know that it's WOW or you...if he can't moderate his time on there.

Good luck

Answer 2

i understand, you must talk to him about this. try writing a letter so you wont miss out on important details you wanna discuss. if he says he cannot live without it, it might be time to move on. life is too important to be wasted on something petty.

i dont mean to be fake, i am addicted to warcraft too. i spend hours on it. just today i realized i have other priorities in life too, stuff ive taken for granted because of my obsession with the game. ive managed to lose 5 kilos though in 3 weeks. ;)

i used to have a boyfriend who was so addicted to games, we would only see each other once a week,and when we do it seems forced. obviously it didnt work out.

i also have a male friend who told me that he can live without warcraft. the thing is, he doesnt want to. weve been friends for a long time and we bonded over this game. can you try to see if you like it too? your bf might give you a ten day free pass.

i read somewhere that doing things together as a couple will help strengthen your relationship. but i dont know many girls who play this game, i keep it a real secret from my girl friends..they might think im a freak.;)

Answer 3

He needs to see a specialist. Honestly, this type of condition is realtively new and has to due mostly with the type of game. MMORPG (massively multiplayer online role playing games) are highly addictive because they allow people to develop a seperate persona within another another medium (ie the game instead of life).

WoW, Everquest, Shadowbane, Dark age of Camelot ect... are all types of games that have a tendency to lead to this type of addiction and have resulted in real life suicides.

I played the first generation of mmorpgs for 3 years none stop. Two summers in a row I spent 12 hours a day playing Asheron's Call. Most of high school I was in front of the computer playing AC, its super addictive.

That being said all games are NOT addictive like that at ALL. Playing video games is like smoking weed, its fun but it gets boring after a while and even if it dosn't there is no addiction there that causes you to smoke it all the time. WOW is the crack literally of video games because of its ability to replace a part of someones life.

Don't be suprised if he starts to skip work or school (if he's in college)

Answer 4

I am convinced that WOW is the new D&D (dungeons and dragons) and is also a cult. I was visiting friends in Korea and one of them had to be pryed away from it to come out with us. The other friend used to be addicted to the game as well but said he break away from it because it was destroying his life.

Here is my advice: Tell him "we need to talk" and suggest you do it over dinner at a nice restaurant. If he doesn't have a free moment, leave a note on his keyboard. Over dinner, tell him how hurt you were when he pushed you away, tell him he needs to make time for you or you will leave him.

I am sure you can find another guy who can give you more attention than him. Hell, if it were not for the fact that I just broke up with my girl and are a bit angry at women right now, I'd make a pass at you. I never rejected a girlfriend when they made a sexual advance at me. Your boyfriend must be addicted to the game or gay.

Answer 5

A fun game to play once in a while that will scare the **** out of you Is Slender it's free btw. Also, alien swarm is fun just download it off steam if you don't have steam download it. Althought minecraft isn't free get that it really adicting it's only like 20$ I believe.

Answer 6

As we all know, WoW is a drug, that destroys family lives and relationships with others...who aren't in your WoW clan. There's a couple of choices you have: 1. Break up. 2. Chop off his internet connection / bash his computer. or the best option: 3. Create an intervention with his friends (who dont play WoW) and family and try to tell him to go to rehab, a.k.a., the gym and work/school.

Answer 7

Ultimatums are never a good idea. You should decide how you want to be treated and if you don't feel that he will treat you that way, then leave him to his game and find someone that will treat you the way you want to be treated. If you feel he will treat you the way you deserve to be treated tell him how you feel and see if you can work on the relationship together.

Answer 8

get rid of his account before it gets worst coz this has taken over the lifes of on of my mates he one it for up 2 3 days straight he has been in school for over 2 months now

Answer 9

Nothing would get in the way of a sexual advance of a good looking lady for me.

Answer 10

whoa. that is sick.
if he'd rather play his game than be with you (i should say that you should leave sex until after marraige) then i swear you should dump him right away.
it sounds to me like he's not making you feel special, instead he's pushing you away. dump him and go to church. God will NEVER push you away.