I lied to my fiance and his sister and her boyfriend about my whereabouts a couple of weeks ago. I said I was out with a girlfriend when I really went out for a bite to eat and a chat with my ex-husband and 16 year old son to my ex about issues we are having with our son. It was not a planned meeting but a last minute thing. I lied because I knew that my boyfriend and his sister would not approve of me having dinner with my ex and our son and now they know that I lied. We nearly broke up over it. This has been about the only thing I have really lied to him about. But now my boyfriend/fiance doesn't trust me. He keeps going on about it and interrogating me for details and giving me such a hard time. . . I so regret lying and didn't intend on hurting him. Now his whole family thinks that I am a compulsive liar. Will he ever get over it? Will he ever forgive me? I wonder. . .
2006-12-07 08:58:08 · 7 answers · asked by ysbiwg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
BTW, I am not in any way romantically or intimately involved with my ex husband. We have been divorced for over 8 years, however we have tried to remain friends for the sake of our son.
2006-12-07 08:59:38 · update #1
it is good to be friends with your ex everybody don't have it like that. it is a mistake to lie even though there are times when we feel like we have to to save someones feelings. I think that he will get over it with time. don't worry about what his family thinks your relationship is with him not them.
2006-12-07 09:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by teresa.edmonds@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These kind of relationships are hard to deal with. I know from personal experience. My boyfriend has an ex-wife and a kid with her and it is very hard to trust him when he is around her. The advice that seems to keep my mind at ease most of the time is that exs are exs for a reason, and he comes home to me. I would run these ideas to him. Maybe it would help him to trust you. I've heard that there is no relationship without trust. And try not to lie, always tell the truth even if it does hurt.
2006-12-07 17:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance has to understand that you will always have cause to see your ex because you have a son together. it is perfectly reasonable that you should see them.
Your fiance's sister and boyfriend have absolutely nothing to do with this and if your fiance allows them to get involved with discussions between you and him, then i fear you should seriously think about your relationship with him.....are you going to marry just him, or lots of his family too? Your realtionship is with him and him alone. You are allowing people to interfere here......don't. You need to ensure from the start that you and your bloke are allowed to sort out problems BY YOURSELVES. And if he doesn't trust you now over something that is so integral to your life...ditch him. He will always make you unhappy about this unless you and he sort it now; the two of you! NO OTHERS!
2006-12-07 17:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by super lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why you lied in the 1st place, You have to sort out your son which is a priority, and if this means with your ex well so be it. Your son is the issue here. Good Luck with it
2006-12-07 19:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Calais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to see that you know you did wrong by lying. Eventually he will get over it. Just bear with him until then. It will take him a while to trust you completely again (I've been where your fiance is). It will happen, but it will take some time. Just don't get caught in another lie and you'll be fine.
2006-12-07 17:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get over it but u should not have lied.That boy is your family you have every right to talk about problems that arise concerning your son.
2006-12-07 18:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what to say. Just keep trying is all I can say. Perhaps your fience was cheating on in the past and that makes him paranoid to lose you.
2006-12-07 17:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋