She dated him for 6 years while they were in the military, we have been dating for about 1 1/2 months (sleeping together every night almost). She decided that since he is leaving for kuwait next month that she is going to fly from D.C. to England next week for 3 days and stay at his place (in the spare bedroom she says) because she needs to do this?
I'm very upset. Is she trying to end it or start it, are they going have a goodbye f#$k?
2006-12-07 08:50:14 · 33 answers · asked by shakedaddy12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
man hate to be the one to tell you but when she see's him one thing that want be closing is her legs
2006-12-07 08:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is going to f&^$ his brains out. Sorry to be blunt but look at the facts (the ones you have given here).
Dated him for 6 years. That's not really dating anymore, they had something way more serious but never took it to that level.
FLYING FROM D.C. TO ENGLAND. Clue #1 right there. She is willing to spend money on an international flight to go see an ex lover before he leaves for Kuwait. If that doesn't say good-bye screw then I don't know what does.
She says she is going to stay in his spare bedroom. - yeah, ok. Maybe her intentions RIGHT NOW are to stay in the spare bedroom, but as soon as she gets there, it's master bedroom time for them.
Sorry, dude. She's going to get one last lay (or several) before he goes to Kuwait. The good news - you've only been dating for a month and a half so the loss, while it still sucks, shouldn't be too hard to get over. Dump her and find a girl that is willing to give her all to you and not someone else.
2006-12-07 08:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Buster 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You dont go spend 3 days with an exboyfriend for "closure". If you are willing to accept that excuse then you are foolish. She ended the relationship and if she feels she needs "closure" a phone call would do telling him that she wishes him the best in Kuwait and in his future and hopefully he would wish her the same. She is either returning for one more go around or to try to make amends with him....just because the two of you sleep together every night does not mean she loves you...she has a 6 year history with this man and I am sure was in love with him....you need to take your blinders off and tell her if she goes than the two of you are done...if she cares about the future of your relationship she will not go...she will make the phone call. If she goes then you need to move on and find someone who can concentrate on you only
2006-12-07 08:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Six years is a long time and 1 1/2 months isn't so you may need to be a little worried but if she doesn't do it now, she may always wonder what could have been. If she goes back to him now, wouldn't it be better than if she waited until you guys have been together for longer and more of your feelings are involved.
2006-12-07 08:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by juicie813 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hope this helps. It may be very innocent. I was with an ex for 5 years. He spent some time in prison. My new boyfriend is now my husband. I needed to speak to me ex for "closure". I had some questions to ask. Whether goodanswers or not these things needed to be said. I wasnt completely over my ex but was by far NOT interested in anything,not even goodbye sex. In my case,my then bf was worried but he didnt really need to be.
2006-12-07 08:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It could be nothing really , i mean the relationship should be maintained with trust.but personally i wouldn want to see my ex for closure it should be the other way around.i think you have just answered your own question in your last statement,other wise why would a person want to fly 1/2 way across the globe just to say good bye? it could be easily done through fax or email
2006-12-07 08:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by kiki_freelove 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be too worried. They probably broke it off on an uncertain note, or never officially broke it off. She just needs some time with him to figure out where they stand with each other now. I would only start worrying if she doesn't come back after those 3 days are over.
2006-12-07 08:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have to say that is straight up wrong of her to do to you and shouldn't even try to ask you to understand this you have every right to be worried and shouldn't even be put in this situation in the first place, but if you really care about her and want to still stay with her then I guess you have no other choice but to trust her! If it were me, I would move on and find someone who would cherish and respect me!
2006-12-07 08:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by honeyEMT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
`CLOSURE'? What exactly is closure? Are we talking about a door, a cookie jar or maybe an underwear drawer. Closure? The bigest load of crap I've ever heard of. Don't take it. Don't accept it. Don't stand for it. Sensitive guy? - doormat? Fine line!
2006-12-07 08:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Voldi G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask her
find out EXACTLY what her reasons are and why so much closure is needed.
Maybe warn her that if they do f uck you would leave her. Then maybe ask yourself how much you trust her and why. If you don't, maybe you shouldn't be together in the first place. You could pay somebody to check on them if you care that much and lack trust. It would be sad if you did though.
2006-12-07 08:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um - I wouldn't trust it. She'll probably sleep w/ him. Dinner is one thing...staying at his place (with all their history) is quite another!
And you've only been together for 1& 1/2 months? He probably means more to her then you do at this point. Tell her if she wants to do that then she can stay there cuz you won't take her back.
2006-12-07 08:53:02 · answer #11 · answered by Niko 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋