Hi this is my first time out here ok heres the scenario i am 25 and hav been with the same man for 7 yrs. In the beginning everything was great but now i find that eventhough i kno i should leave him i don't .My bf verbally and emotionally abuses me daily if not hourly calling me names from whore,****, cow,pig,*****,worthless piece of **** fck face you name it hes said it.On top of all that he accused me of cheating everyday .when i go for a smoke at work im cheating if my phone line is busy im cheating. He even stole my house key and i live with my parents. He gets very upset and almost violentile when hes mad there is no talking to him. he's like a crazy person and im seriously wondering maybe there is mental illness involved. I cant have friends. I can go out . I have no life anymore He has ripped me as a person into shreds I am not the same person i used to be. I feel battered without the bruises . I honestly hate him for everything he has done why am i staying around opinions?
2006-12-07 08:27:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know my family hates him i hate him i just think that he has crushed my soul and self worth.i need to gather up enough strength and say screw off ******* its been going on far to long thanks for all those who responded it really means alot
2006-12-07 08:42:49 · update #1
Only you know why you stay in that situation, But one day it will go from verbal abuse to physical abuse. What will it take to make you walk away? Let me ask you, would you take that kind of crap from a stranger? No you would not. yet you take it from some one that claims that he loves you.
You are holding on to the man you once met. Let me tell you that man was not real. he said and did all the things you wanted him to do. he is a con artist.
He does these things to make him feel big and powerful. and you sure are giving him a lot of power right now.
And it has been my experience if they are accusing you of messing around. all you have to do is look the accuser in the eye they are the one that is doing it. but they have to turn and accuse the other to make them feel better in what they are doing.
Mental abuse in my opinion is worse than physical abuse. Because you cannot see the scarring or the bruising or the broken heart. the longer you stay in a relationship like this the longer it will take you to heal.
take a good hard look in the mirror and tell yourself. just how valuable you are to yourself, your job, your family and that you deserve better and you are going to get better and get the heck out of there.
2006-12-07 09:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by ms_swampy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would it take for you to believe that you deserve better than this? You may love him, but by staying you arent doing either of you any good. He needs help and maybe you could use some counselling after all this abuse.
You need to try to make a break from him. Think about it.. you can't even plan for a family with him. Would you subject children to this type of person?
What does your family think of him? Do you want to spend the rest of your life like this?
You should record some of the things he says to you and play it back to him. Explain that this is why you need to end this relationship or put it on hold at least until he can get some help.
God bless.
2006-12-07 08:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 04:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have got to get out of this relationship. It will get worse, I promise you. Honestly I think you already know that dont you. All I can say is you know what you need to do. When will you be ready to take that step. Ask yourself what are you afraid of. Write the pros and cons down of leaving this guy. You can do it! Hasnt he done enough to you. I'm here and good luck!!
2006-12-07 08:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave Now!!!
Go straight to the police and file a report, then to the courts for a restraining order.
If he touches you one more time, press charges, have him arrested.
You do not deserve to be treated this way. He has no right.
Please leave now and get help.
2006-12-07 08:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by jairman2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey!!well i hope u git away from him soon b4 he does a lot more 2 you!!!i think u r just scared 2 git away from this man cuz the fear of what he mite do! I think he is insucure bout himself he is scared of loosing you!!he is scared that u will cheat on him!!dont hate him feel sorry 4 him!!but please git away from him as soon as you can..i hope u have a great lifE!!dont let that man have u where u are scared of life!!GOD LUVS YOU!!
2006-12-07 08:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you stick with him is beyond me. The first time anyone would of told me that **** would of been the last time. I'd of thought of him like somethig disgusting on the bottom of my shoe and would have no qualms about him knowing exactly how I feel.
2006-12-07 08:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seriously need to get away from him!! Dont walk, run!!!!! He sounds like a jealous, abusive a**hole. Its only verbal abuse right now, but it could end physical. You are way to young to live like this, if you would call this "a life" Please get out now!!!
2006-12-07 08:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by pebbles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave. If you this monster and you know he's bad for you, leave him. I highly doubt there's mental illness, but you should dump him before his verbal abuse turns physical. He's clearly paranoid, and if he's mentally ill, it's paranoid schizophrenia. Just get rid of this guy; he's bad for your health.
2006-12-07 08:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by aclockworkpotato 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take that last ounce of whatever and stick up for yourself and PHA his butt and get out, my opinion
2006-12-07 08:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋