my and my fiance are getting married this month, we were just going to get married at the courthouse while his is on leave from the military, but his mom wants us to be wed in a church. Though its a great idea and alot better than a court, but i get really nervous. I dont like big weddings with alot of people, id much rather it just be me and him and our mediate family and than a big reception. I dont know what to do, i dont want to get so nervous and become the runaway bride..hehe..help me!
2006-12-07 08:23:35 · 15 answers · asked by Caitlin S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's his day too and you MIL wants to do things right! You can still have an intimate, small church wedding and if she is willing to help out, the better!
My co-worker's daughetr got married and a cute little stone chapel with no more than 25 people in attendance. It was family and very close friends only., it was elegant and beauttiful!
Followed by a small, simple and elegant reception with just a few friends and family... no more than 35 people al together. It was memorable and not a wedding that you maight regret later.
Don;t let yourinsecurities get the best of you.
Congrats and good luck
2006-12-07 08:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Type into your search engine your city state & wedding officiant. You should have a few to choose from.
You can have a small intimate wedding that will satisfy both you & your future mom inlaw.
Shouldn't be too hard to pull together. Find a minister that will do this for you. And you don't have to get married in a church. There are hotels & chapel & homes & gardens & the place you are holding your reception (which is becoming quite popular).
Make it a win-win situation.
2006-12-07 16:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my wedding I went to the court house. I wanted something small. But my mother-in-law would not allow it. I live in California the room you can use for free only would hold 7 to 10 people. Which was fine with me and my husband but his mother would NOT go with that. So I told her not to come. HA HA. Anyways... We ended up having to rent a bigger room in the court house. So then everyone got to come. Which I guess was good. After that the next day we had a small reception at my parents house. It was nice. Because everyone we didn't`t invite to the wedding came to the party. And still got to celebrate with us. You just have to remember what you want. DO NOT let your mother-in-law push you around. It is your day not hers. Good luck!! and Best Wishes!
2006-12-07 18:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by KT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wanted my husband and I to have a dream fancy church wedding with everyone there. But I wanted exactly what u wanted. We ended up doing it the way we wanted it done. I would not change a thing. You only get married for the first time once, make it special and memorable, and your very own. I promise you wont regret it.
2006-12-07 16:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Zoomba 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you want to do. If you are that nervous you shouldn't force yourself into something. All that matters is spending the rest of your lives together. The wedding only lasts a few hours but the marriage lasts forever! Good luck!
2006-12-08 03:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about a church wedding with 20 people or something?
2006-12-07 16:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On your wedding day the only people you need to please is yourself and your husband never mind where your future mother in law wants you to get married. If you want to get married at the justice of the peace get married by the justice of the peace. Remember these are your memories not your mother in laws
2006-12-07 18:03:08 · answer #7 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was married at the JP and was still nervous and shaking like crazy...you are tying the knot with the man you love...of course you are goin to be nervous. talk to the MIL, and tell her that if its a church wedding she wants the number of people attending must be small...sometimes taking a quick swig of liquor will help calm the nerves...it didnt mine but hey its still worth a shot...sorry if this isnt much help..
2006-12-07 16:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding, so whatever you and your future husband agree on is the only thing that matters. His mom shouldn't call the shots on this decision. This is your day... do it how you want to do it and if someone doesn't agree, then too bad for them!! Congratulations, by the way!
2006-12-07 16:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by thejenns22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember it is your wedding. While every ones advice should be welcome, do what you want. If you want a small private affair, do it. Normally church weddings cost money so it can take away money from other activities.
If you only have a certain amount of time with your finance keep it simple and memorable.
Don't please anyone but yourself.
2006-12-07 20:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋