I was out at the mall today and saw men buying things at victorias secret, jewelry stores, and nice perfumes at the department store, walking a round with nice bags with things obviously bought for the women in their lives but it seems every guy I meet is a cheapskate. I dated a superrich guy who never bought me anything, and yes he still expected something from me (you know what I mean) and every guy I have dated has been too cheap to even by my anything at valentines day or christmas or my birthday. It seems to be a trend, is it me or am I just getting bottom of the barrel men? I am not talking about being a gold digger , a little thoughtful gift would be nice and besides other women get them. I know alot of people will say they don't buy stuff till they get to know a woman and date her more but those same guys are trying to get you into bed from date one so they aren'lt into waiting for that. Does anyone else have this same problem?
2006-12-07 08:22:07 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just pick the wrong kind of guy. The nicer you are the worst off you will be. Learned that the hard way. Be a bit of a cold hearted ***** then you will get some respect. They'll bend over backwards for you...
2006-12-07 08:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by deborah_012003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can encourage you by saying I always seem to meet guys that want to buy me everything I want which means there are a lot of them out there and you can get one. I have also run into a few that want to be tight with their wallets, I dismiss them and don't think twice about them. You have to PICK through a lot of bad seeds to get to a good one or a few good ones, if your lucky. One thing you cannot do is come off as a person who always needs something, look like or at least carry yourself like you do for yourself, tell them you work even if you don't and between those hours don't call them. *Most men with a lot of money are cheap or at least they seem to be, my ex was a millionaire but he would ask me a million questions if I asked for money for leisure, he felt he should only buy me the things that I NEED and I should buy the things that I want.
The way you tell if they are cheap up front is by conversation or what they think the two of you should do as your first time getting together, if he says something that does not involve him spending money, you should probably hit it. (ex. dinner, look up some really nice restaurants in your area, not too too expensive but somewhere that will make him spend at least $50-60-100 for the meal)
Good Luck Boo
2006-12-07 08:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mamacita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there's a fine line between what you want and what you don't want. My ex was very cheap...i.e. he rarely paid for my dinner. However, when he did pay for my dinner or buy me gifts, I knew he really wanted to (because as a student, money is tight). On the other hand, it is nice to get gifts occasionally. I think you can generally tell just by how thoughtful a guy seems. Some guys are oblivious and would never think about gifts, etc. Other guys are very aware.
2006-12-07 08:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by skichamonix515 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ususally a guy will atleast buy you roses from the first date, and if not lose him. girl your guy sounds after one thing, lose him and find a decent man, shop around
2006-12-07 08:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋