Im 19 and getting married to my marine this month. My mom and the rest of my family already know but i havent yet told my dad. See, i live in my house with just my dad, because my mom left him. I had mentioned something about getting married before but he didnt even take it seriously. I dont know what to say to him so he wont be upset, because not only am i getting married, im also moving to california where my fiance will be stationed. I dont want to break his heart..ah what should i do.
2006-12-07 08:08:24 · 13 answers · asked by Caitlin S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well for one...you sound WAY too young and irresponsible if you haven't told him and you live in the same house.
He will be upset for one just because you have waited til now.
Your age and your behavior are all indicators that you are not ready to get married.
2006-12-07 08:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
OH! i have been in your shoes. I recently got married, i didnt told my dad until 2 months before the wedding, thinking that he would get upset because my fiance was not from our own race.
Turn out that my dad really liked him, and thinking about it, i dont know why i was so worried, i am well over 20 and my fiance had a masters, a great job, its tall, dark and handsome and has many qualities that my dad liked.
Hey think about the things that your fiance has, the good qualities and then talk to your dad and tell him, dad i am marrying and let me tell you about the person i have choosen to be my better half.
:)
Enjoy and have fun!
Congrats
2006-12-07 11:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by chik_nice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK... let me say that i read your question and i was touched. i lost my dad last year. i am only 26 and i have been with my fiance for 5 years. i miss my dad so much we were so close. when we are planning our wedding i cry every time. i don't have my dad to walk me down that isle and i would give the world to have him there! time is precious with your family. you cant get this time back. tell him what you are doing he may or may not agree. it's OK at least you have the opportunity to do so. i wouldn't leave state and leave my family though i only have my grandma left here, my mom passed when i was 16. i always took the time i had with him for granted. now it hurts so bad!! i would truly give anything just to tell him i love you daddy, and by the way I'm getting married will you walk me down that isle?
2006-12-07 08:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by A Proud Marine's Daughter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REAL ADVICE:
You are getting married to a US Marine. It is not YOUR job to tell him. The Marine needs to be an honorable MAN and go to your dad, announce his intentions and ask for his blessing.
This is the way it's done. It's not your job to tell your father. Tell your fiancee that he needs to ask your father.
Traditionally, he should take your father to dinner and ask him for his permission. If he does not grant it, then so be it. Be cordial and polite. You can go on without his approval, but I'd give your father the respect every father desires.
As far as you moving away, your father knows that it will happen one day. Your fiancee should have had this talk with your father months ago.
Your man asking him for a blessing will cover all your bases and make him look like a gentleman.
2006-12-07 08:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Brother Crash 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell him. Right now. Stop reading Yahoo and go talk to your father.
How is sort of irrelevant at this point. You don't have time to pussi foot around this issue. Does he know you are even dating this guy? You and your fiance need to talk to him together.
He'll likely be angry that you waited so long...why the he!! did you wait so long....but his reaction is his reaction. If he chooses not to come to the wedding it IS his loss but you'll just have to deal with his absence. You waited so long, you don't have any leverage in this matter.
2006-12-07 08:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would site him down again and tell him that I am getting Married and I am going to be moving with my soon to be wife to her base. Do let him know that you are going to see him. Let him know how much your fiance means to you. Also let him know that you want him to be there to share that special day with him. Every parent is always sad when they see their kids grow up and start to have their own life and their own family.
2006-12-11 07:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by semperfiwife18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't told him, even though he's supposed to give you away, at the ceremony? You need to tell him, young lady.
You could say, "Dad, I hear you're giving someone away, this month" or "Dad, I hope to see you at the wedding." Yo could even say, "Dad, _____ of the Marines and I are hoping to get married, this month. Can you please, come?".
2006-12-07 08:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, you can't hide it from him for ever.
I am sure he'll be more sadder if you don't tell him.
Tell him the truth emmediatly.
He will want you to follow your heart, and do what you think is the best.
Good Luck!
2006-12-07 08:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl! you need to quit being a nervous Nelly and tell him. He deserves that much.
2006-12-07 08:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late to not break his heart. You need to tell him, NOW!!! Just sit him down and tell him.
2006-12-07 09:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋