2006-12-07 08:07:14 · 10 answers · asked by PrettyEyes 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The stepparent should be respected by the stepchild. In turn the stepchild deserves to be respected by the stepparent. Parents in general are such an important influence in a childs' life and a stepparent can be as well. In my case my stepson was an infant when I came into his life. As such he has always been disciplined by me and he respects me and listens to me in the same way that my own children do. I think it could make for a very confusing and possibly unhappy household if there was a lack of respect there.
2006-12-07 08:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by thoughts_in_a_blender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also a step parent and a Mother of a 10 month old son. I have the same problem. When my husband and I met she was only 2, now 6. She doesn't understand how to respect me as a step Mom yet. She thinks of me as a friend. I understand where you are coming from. It's difficult but I am hoping after sooo long of being around she will learn to understand that I am just as equal as her father. The main issue is when her Mom will sit there and degrade me and tell her she doesn't like me. So then my step daughter will say "my mommy said she doesn't like you and she says bad words about you". Hopefully you aren't in the same boat as far as that half goes. Good luck and if you ever need an ear let me know.
2006-12-07 10:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by tregrohman06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this is a complex situation. The main firm hand needs to be the childs bialogical parent. If the child is acting up that parent needs to be the one to put their foot down. As the step parent you need to be present when this is going on but let the parent of the child handle it. Discuss the situation in private with your spouce b4 anything is done. This however doesn't mean the step child should be able to disrespect the step parent. You too are the provider and they are under your roof. if they are disrespcetful to you, ask them commly why they are trying to hurt your feelings. You odn't deserve it just b/c your the step parent. all you want ot do is be there for them and help them and love them. and if their is some kind of probem they have with you, sorry, but somehow we all need to find a away to deal with it.
2006-12-07 08:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a step parent and it is extremely hard sometimes i just want to throw in the towel she is 11 by the way. If they didn't I think they would lose respect. It also matters whose house they live at the most. My stepdaughter is with us primarily and visits her mom I have been told i am nicer then her mom out of daughters own mouth. Also depends on how old they are when parent and other gets together.
2006-12-07 08:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can tell you that the step-parent should beable to tell the child(ren) what they should do. If they live in the home or out of the home. They need to respect their step-parents just as the step-parents should respect the child. let me give you an example: I have a sister-in-law, she has 2 girls, 15 and 11, and her boyfriend of almost 11yrs has a daughter who is 11 also, well, she doesn't make her girls listen to him and they're are very rude to him and don't listen to a word he says to them, which i think is very wrong, he's an adult and he's been in the girls lives since the oldest was 5yrs and the youngest was 1 yr old, but yet the mother says no they don't have to listen to him and like i said they are extremely rude to him. Okay, now his daughter has to listen to my sister in law if she doesn't my sister in law grounds her and whatever. But what I'm getting at is she wants his daughter to listen to her but yet her's don't have to listen to him. I don't think that's right. if his has to listen to her then her's should listen to him. But she doesn't see it that way. But the children should listen or it just gets out of hand.And they won't respect you if they don't.
2006-12-09 04:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by kayren s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How ought to you experience in case you concept you've been helping with techniques from giving your meant's toddlers your call,clothed them,raised them,and positioned up with them,then in the destiny,once you've some toddlers of your human being or their "genuine dad" comes decrease back,you're a no human being?
2016-11-30 06:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by schebel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The stepchildren would lose a valuable experienced resource who is looking out for them (in most cases). And the biological parent would step in and correct the issue.
2006-12-07 08:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the type of person that will correct a child that is in my care no matters who's it is. If that child is in my care and they are acting up and disrespecting me then they get reprimanded
2006-12-07 08:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by bbwg_hbic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the children would have a lack of respect for the step parent.
2006-12-07 08:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would call that BREAKTHROUGH
2006-12-07 19:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋