I think my son is going through the "Terrible 2's" He throws a fit or cries if I tell him no. If I tell him no he screams bloody murder. He's not like this anywhere else but at home. I am at my wits end! He is 21 months old...what could be going on with him to make him act this way? Please tell me its just a phase....
2006-12-07 08:00:16 · 11 answers · asked by mommy_2_little_man 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It is just a phase. Children at his age are going through a difficult time. They are struggling with autonomy and dependence. They want to venture out but are uncertain of doing so. They also become frustrated because they cannot successfully verbalize all of the new, confusing feelings they are experiencing. I am in grad school for child development and have learned a lot about this topic. Check out the books below. they are very easy to read and are extremely relevant for what you are going through.
Happy Parenting!
2006-12-07 08:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by tac_1994 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you it is only a phase but it can last for ever if you do not change the way you are raising him.
When he starts crying just let him do it. Don't even pay attention because that is what he is trying to do. Do not hesitate even if he is driving you crazy. You must be strong because it will not last a few minutes it will last almost 30 minutes. But he will get tyred and after a few times he will realize that he can not get anything doing that. Good luck!
2006-12-07 08:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by Barb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of it is a phase but you also must let him get away with it most of the time because if he only does it at home and he's not doing it anywhere else then it is how you are disaplining him. When he screams make him sit down in timeout if he gets up put him back down I know he is little but he will learn
2006-12-07 08:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, here is what you do....the next fit...pick him up and put him in the tub and turn on the shower for a second. It will shock him and he will stop that right away. Then if he starts to throw a fit agian, ask him if he wants you to put him in the shower...it sounds mean and maybe it is but it will work. This remedy was in a book I read once. It worked with my sons temper tantrums.
2006-12-07 08:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by MonsterMom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Totally ignore him when he does that, turn your attention to something else. After a while, when he sees, that it's not working, he'll stop. But if it gets really bad, you can always put him on a time out. Probably about 2 minutes each time and eventually it will work.
Good luck to you
2006-12-07 08:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son started screaming every time I told him no pretty much the day that he turned 2. Unfortunately it hasn't stopped yet and he's now 27 months. Maybe they are just dicovering that they have minds of their own, and who really likes being told "no" anyways!!! Good Luck!
2006-12-07 08:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by nina m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the key is when kids act a certain way we have to get their attention away from the tantrum so they will stop it.similar to what MonsterMom said, my son use to throw tantrums and i would blow a whistle when he done it. it got his attention , it was louder than his yelling and kicking. DONT blow the whistle in his face or ears or anything just when he throws his fits get in the same room with hI'm and blow the whistle. eventually when he throws his fits or starts one you will just have to say, im going to get the whistle!!!! and he wont even start a fit. but dont let him play or blow the whistle, he wont look at it as a discipline tool and will look at it as a toy.
2006-12-07 08:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by bbwg_hbic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you are just getting to the beginning of the terrible twos!! Be consistant & firm and don't let him win. If you don't get a handle on this now, it will be much worse later on. He is NOT too young to understand time out.
2006-12-07 08:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your preaching to the quior sweetie!! My son is 22 months old and also throwing insane tantrums!! latley he's been even hitting his own grandmother !! it's nice to know their are other moms in your same boat ,cause sometimes we feel so alone!!everyone tells me it's just a phase and I hope it is for my sanity!!!good luck!! p.s JUST IGNORE THE TANTRUMS!!!DON'T GIVE IN!!
2006-12-07 10:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by ♥MIMI♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he act the same way with the father?
2006-12-07 09:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by shanayie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋