Parents: If your kid (teenage son) told you that your spouce was abusing him, but had no proof, what would...?

Question

What would you do?
Let's say the spouce had a history of abuse and the kid had a huge history of telling the truth

It would be the stepdad

Answer 1

well i know first how that is to tell your parent that someone they love is abusing your child?it is hard as a mother to believe that the person you have trusted could do something so terrible to your child. let me tell you what happen with my mother,she didn,t believe me at first cause she was in denial about the man she thought she loved and i know it had to be hurting for her but i was hurting too but it is not a hard decision for you to make about your child maybe she thought i was liying because me and my sisters did'nt like him but down the line she chose me and she felt guilty about not believing in me and she try to make it up by buying me gifts and stuff.but i know for her she loved me more and that was it for her,but for you ,you don't want to make that mistake as not to believe to take your child side first cause that could be damaging to your child later on in life and you don't want that for your child.even if you find out if it was a lie you need to do whatever it takes to find out the right decision but this is important to your child and you and if its not true your child has alot of explaining to do and why?but first chose your child and all the rest will happen.but first ftnd out if this is true or not,but love your child inspite of what the outcome may be.deal with the man next tell him what happen and then tell him that he has to leave until you find out the outcome.even though i forgive my mother that pain was always with me until god change me and made me realize that i could'nt carry this for the rest of my life and i have to forgive my mother cause i knew she loved me but was fighting with the issue that the person she thought she loved could hurt her daughter and she was going through stuff herself and i know it hurted so bad not to believe her daughter it killed her and she could'nt forgive herself for not believing me and i let her know that i loved her and i forgave her and we never talk about it again but she is the most important part of my life and she still is.

Answer 2

Do you have confidence and have confidence your son? Are those bruises a modern-day progression? Have him regarded at by using your physician while he's have been given some clean ones ... docs understand what reasons bruises and the place they oftentimes may well be stumbled on on a physique because it pertains to abuse of private injury. in the experience that your son maintains to hold it on your interest, the two confront your significant different (that could properly be a concern on your son if he's telling you the reality) or set up the 'ol 'secret agent cam'. See in case you may get some thing on movie. you are going to be able to additionally prefer to invite an extremely close chum of your son's. He might open as much as a 'terrific chum' those issues he'd on no account tell anybody else. the two way, do not basically take a seat on it ... verify it out!

Answer 3

First of all, I am sorry your son is going through this. This is a tough issue to go through. Talk to your son one on one and ask him to recreate the situation. Let him know first that you love and trust him and you hate that you are asking him to relive the events. Then talk to your spouse one on one and ask him his side. IF your spouse gets defensive, he could be guilty. Then once you get both sides, take time and think about what you heard and what you want to do. Then talk to them together and see everyones reaction to the situation. If at that point you still feel your son is telling the truth. CALL THE POLICE!!! Do not hesitate. DO not let that man stay in your home with or without your child another day or night. GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 4

use a hidden cam corder, or a hidden cassette recorder and leave it on. I suggest a cam corder so that even if you don't get a picture, you can still here the sounds. Pick a room. Your child's room , livingroom and tell him to stay in that room until you come. Do it on a weekend so that you have time to do this. That way if there is abuse, you will likely get it recorded. Under the bed is a good spot to hide the camcorder. Borrow if you don't have one.

Answer 5

You have to listen to your child no matter what. Talk to your son find out what when and how then ask your husband about certain incidents your son mentioned and go from there its pretty easy to see who is lying but if you really think your son may be in trouble due to your husbands violent history i would ask him to move out till things get sorted. Don't wait till the police get involved and make things worse handle it now..

Answer 6

Trust your kid..............He is probably telling the truth.....Would there be a reason for him to lie about something like this? I doubt that he would lie about something that serouis if your kid tells the truth all the time!!! And if it is happenning and you don't do anything about it, your kid might hate you forever for not doing anything if you don't!!!!!!! So act fast or ignore it and think in your head "Oh well he's just asking for attention and lieing", Or do the right thing and believe in him!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

the best thing to do is set the step up the father. try catching him in the act of abusing the child because if you don't do any thing about it you can get punished for the crime if the authorities find out.

Answer 8

call the cops and do a test on the kid as well but what kind of mom will ask us first

Answer 9

Are you willing to take the chance of not of not believeing him? Honest kid or not, that's your baby no matter how old.

Answer 10

Divorce and destroy! My child is my life, abuse him and die!