the same time i found out i had a sexually transmitted disease i found out i was pregnant also. he went to jail a month after that and has been in jail ever since. i never had a chance to really talk about it because the month before he went to jail i did not speak to him. my son is five months now and he will be home soon. he says he is a changed man, but thats only because he is in jail. should i forgive him and be with him when he comes home or should i move on? serious answers only
2006-12-07 07:36:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all the picture paint is not pretty. He gave you a STD because he was not being faithful.NOW he's in jail. Honey I speak from experience. I have been a single mom for quiet sometime. Now that you are going to be a Mother you have to put your child first. What Kind of situation will it be for the baby?I know it's hard when you love someone. But it's easier to get into than to get out of. Some times being a MOM means to do what makes sense. Not what your heart or hormones tell you to do.
I pray that you have a good family support system. I tell you, you never know how much your family really loves you until your time of need.
2006-12-07 07:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun, he didnt' care enough about you before to make sure you didnt' get any diseases and now he is giving you the "jail talk". Move on while you can. Once a cheater.. always a cheater. Your child deserves an honest father and one who will be there for him as he grows up. Sounds like this guy will be in jail for most of the kids life. Let him go, move on and make a nice life for you and the child.
2006-12-07 07:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should move on. He will only cheat on you again. Look at everything he did to you. You deserve much more then this. And what kind of father could he possibly be to your son. Make a good life for you and your child. Everyone says they are changed. You will never know one way or the other. God bless and good luck with your future.
2006-12-07 07:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by vennie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That should be a no brainer. Be smart if he cheated once he'll do it again. They always find themself in jail because there are no women in there. Be strong and move on. Their are faithful men out there that would love to have you and your baby.
You control your own fate. Remember that :)
2006-12-07 07:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did once, he'll probably do again. You have a child now and that should be your #1 concern. Let him go. It's not worth the drama. Besides if he gave you a std, then he didn't care then and he probably won't care now. Just make sure that he takes care your child.
2006-12-07 07:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!!!! This will not turn out good. He is not a changed man in that short amount of time. You are just a convenience for him right now. When he gets home **** will change !!! Worry about yourself and your child. It could have been worse...HIV?????!!!!! Love yourself better than that. I know I don't know you or your man, but please believe I speak from my own experience.
2006-12-07 07:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be kidding. He gave you VD, he's in jail...what are you clinging to here? Look at your son's face and vow you will give that kid a healthy life and that means not being around losers.
2006-12-07 10:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on , he's in a spot where getting out he needs you more than you need him, once that changes he'll be back to his same old routine and you'll end up with more std's and a crappy role model for your son. best your son doesnt meet his real daddy till he's 18 and searched him out himself
2006-12-07 07:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, I mean sometimes people truly change, but in this case...a tiger can't change his stripes. He should not have done that to you, it was a terrible thing and he should not be "rewarded" for it. I think you should find someone else who will be more respectful because clearly for someone to do that...they do not respect you.
2006-12-07 07:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He not only disrespected you in the worst way, he left you with a reminder of his infidelity in the form of an std. I would think it's time to kick him to the curb.
2006-12-07 07:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋