Ok,
I'm not really bothered by the fact that guys look at porn once in awhile. What bothers me is that my boyfriend lies about it (he doesn't know that I know the password to his profile on the computer). Why will he look up porn and deny it, yet when I suggested awhile back that we can watch movies or whatever together, he said no thanks? Come on! It's ridiculous. He always seems to look up big-breasted blondes that are "dominated" by black men (my bf is black, I'm white). First off, I'm brunette and my breasts aren't huge. Now, after seeing what he's been looking at, I feel inadequate.
2006-12-07 07:34:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't just get up and leave... I moved across the country for him and I don't have family here. Besides, I love him and I'm not giving up that easily. This is just one thing that is bothering me.
2006-12-07 07:45:06 · update #1
As far as the race issue, most of my ex-boyfriends were white (I dated a chinese guy once, but to me, that's pretty white). All men are the same regardless of race.
2006-12-07 07:51:12 · update #2
Don't feel bad about yourself at all. That's the worse thing to feel. Reassure yourself that you're fine and happy with who you are. You need talk to your bf and tell him how you feel, but to be honest, guys are guys.
2006-12-07 07:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-24 02:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ethelene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As harsh as this can sound, he ought to not have emotions of charm for you anymore and is preserving you round for incorrect causes, possibly only for sex. To him, some thing is left unfulfilled and he's searching at different skill to fulfill them. imagine constructive of the issue although! perhaps he's searching for prepare. each and anybody has their personal little fantasies and fortunate for you his is porn. a minimum of he's not out searching for different females. try different issues to augment your courting like wearing cute little undies for him. some thing to save him in contact and probably pleasing the different desires that he has. the perfect element i am going to signify is thinking making a porn on your human being or with him. once you're scared this is going to leak and others will see then sit down and watch it which include him and erase it once you're performed gazing. That way there's no data. the perfect reasoning i am going to provide is that he's only bored. try complimenting him once later on and beginning sexual circumstances. some adult males watch porn because they see that the girls on the video clips are continuously keen and they opt for that style of journey as a replace of being the only to continuously commence "the steam" interior the bedroom. wish that permits!
2016-11-30 06:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by winkles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem. It is actually normal for guys to do this. What is not okay in my eyes as you said- he's lying. Perhaps he doesn't want to hurt you. If you can't beat him or join him then find time on your own to watch some porn and be sure to tell him.
2006-12-07 07:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by aleiah126 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time you catch him, shut the monitor off, pull down his pants and beat him off or blow him and then tell him to stop looking at that and have the real thing instead. i guarantee he will beating off to that memory for the rest of his life rather than the online porn.
ONE OTHER MAJOR POINT - myself, like most guys have many different fantasies , depending on the day i have fantasized about big busted blondes, skinny small breasted brunettes, big breasted brunettes, redheads, you name it i have jacked off to the thought of f u c k i ng them
2006-12-07 07:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by jeremy k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't get caught with that, knowing his password and all. my bf does that too, but he likes redheads with big boobs too. I'm not all that big either and i feel the same way also. But someone told me to think of it like this. He's never going to meet them. it's just a picture....
2006-12-07 07:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's indulging a fantasy. The fact he lies about it could mean he's embarassed or worst he's looking to make his dream come true. Don't blame yourself, your man could be ruining a good thing.
2006-12-07 07:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by N8_Blaze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
porn tastes change after time, they usually grow into more kinky or strange tastes. He wants to be with you or he wouldn't be with you at all. If he's embarassed or just curious then he'll want to keep it secret. If you can't trust him and sneak into his files, then maybe you need to find someone who likes brunettes.
2006-12-07 07:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by angelicusbeefus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you be uncomfortable with being dominated a little? It seems to be fantasy of his, and he feels unable to ask you to do so, so he turns to the porn.
2006-12-07 07:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by mld122979 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not so much a comment on your situation just to remailer. You're a butthead and an insult to the human race you bigot. The only goods damaged is you which is evident by your idiotic remarks.
2006-12-07 07:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Quix 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋