ugh PORN!!!!?

Question

ok i want anyone's opinion. my bf watches porn, i know thats normal all guys do that, but ive never had a bf that actually watched it or told me about it hes the first. the thing that bugs me about it is that hell watch it right in front of me knowing that it bugs me. but the thing that really pisses me off is right after hes done he wants to have sex. Im i wrong for getting mad, because he gets mad at me for getting mad at him. please i need advice!!!

ok people...my bf has always watched porn since he has young, so its a natural thing, but the thing that bugs me is that he dosent like every night not just once in a while he does it alot, and ive already tried that whole thing about wacthing it with him, idk it just dosent do it for me

Answer 1

Who brainwashed you? It's "normal and all guys do it?" It's insane if you really believe that. If you don't like it and he keeps doing it- get rid of the jerk. If not,
- You will feel "cheated on" by your partner because he needs something other than you in order to become aroused.
- You will feel insecure about your body, your sexuality and your ability to satisfy your partner.
- You will feel emotionally distant and separate from your partner during sex, worrying that he is not completely "there" with you.
- You will feel angry and resentful towards your partner for not respecting your feelings..
- You will eventually feel turned off to sex, since for you, it is associated with humiliation, control and a feeling of inadequacy.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You have every right to be upset, not just because he's watching porn, but because he is watching it in front of you when he knows you are uncomfortable with it. He's not respecting your feelings any when he does this. And if he is using porn to get himself turned on for sex, that is definitely a problem. If he always uses that to get him going, that man needs counseling ASAP. He may have an addiction to porn. First you should tell him how you feel about this and if an honest talk doesn't work, suggest counseling for him, or even couple's counseling so you both can discuss this with a therapist. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I think he may have an addiction to it. I don't know why guys need to watch porn, it really bothers me. And he should not expect you to want to have sex with him right after he watches porn. That is rude to you, and i wouldn't stand for it. I think you need to try talking to him about it and work it out yourselves, to try to reduce the amount he watches it, and try to get him to understand your feelings. If he realizes that he is hurting you by doing this, he will hopefully stop. If he knows it is hurting you, and the relationship, and he still does it, then he is an *** hole, and i don't think he will change. Or, maybe try to find out if he really does have an addiction, and find out how to fix it.
I had this problem with my boyfriend, not him watching it in front of me, but watching it and jacking off while i was sleeping in the next room, when he knows i love when he wakes me up for sex. We worked on it, and talked about it, and we made our own photos and videos. It has helped A LOT. He still does it, but like once a month, if that, and it is not while i am around. Anyways, i hope this helps.

Answer 5

using porn to get aroused can be a real problem. If the guy watches it too much, he can get desensitized to anything short of the most extreme images. I know from personal experience. I watch it a lot and have had strippers in my lap shaking their boobs in my face and I've been totally disinterested. I've also had women strip in front of me and want sex but I couldn't perform without help. He may be in this situation. The problem is getting him to stop watching it. He has to want to himself. Try getting him to have sex without porn and without stimulation. A guy should be able to get aroused by normal means such as kissing and not require help. If he can't then he's watched too much porn and needs serious help possibly counseling. He has to recognize that it is an addiction and it's not your fault.

Answer 6

Well... why does it bug you?

Why not get into it with him?

You probably feel weird because you feel like you can't, or aren't turning him on as much as you'd like.

So? Take charge, and get out there and do it!

I watch porn WITH my girlfriend sometimes, and we both have fun with it. Usually we end up laughing about it, but still...

If he's telling you about it, he wants you to like it with him. He probably fantasizes about the two of you watching it together, and perhaps more...

If you feel you can't compare to the ladies on-screen, then this is only an issue inside your own head! Try and picture yourself differently. Try and picture yourself the way you want to be as often as possible, and you will be surprised to notice the changes that will occur...

Answer 7

If you don't feel like having sex then just let him know, but on the other hand that is natural and i think that the main purpose of a relationship is to have someone to do everything with including sex. But as i said it depends on how old you are. Are u old and responsible enough to have sex? Have you ever had sex with your boyfriend before?

Answer 8

I don't understand what's so wrong with watching porn. It's like the previews before the movie. So your man watches a little porn, and then he wants to have sex with you. Big deal. It's not like he's thinking about those porn stars when he's doing it with you. Porn just gets him all riled up. It's a good thing that he turns to you after watching porn, instead of someone random.

Answer 9

He could be addicted to the Porn....not good!!!!!

Have you watched it with him? What I'm wondering is if there is a theme he seems to be attracted to in the porn that you could act out to get him away from it.

However, it does sound like he's addicted and needs some help.

Answer 10

The next time you are feeling a little frisky, pop in a gay-male porn while your boyfriend is there to see. Then, after watching it for a while, hit him up for sex.