Does anyone agree with me that a gift card for my birthday is the worst birthday gift to get from your boyfriend? Especially from a guy that wants to move in with you? He doesn't think so - but it's ruined our relationship.
2006-12-07 07:29:34 · 20 answers · asked by kimberly9801 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If that ruined your relationship, then you never had one to begin with. Material things are not important when it comes to relationships. For one thing, be thankful you got a card. Men aren't very good at the gift giving thing. It seems for you to be as old as you are, you would realize what is truely important here. He gave you a gift and you are telling him it isn't good enough. Good thing it's over so he can find someone who will love him for himself and not for the material things he gives. Thank you.
2006-12-07 07:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by cookie 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2014-05-10 13:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, there are a lot of issues here.
#1. If a disappointing gift idea is going to ruin the relationship, the relationship didn't have much of a chance. Worse things than a "worst birthday gift" will come up....where will the relationship stand THEN?
#2. I think you should be thankful that he remembered your birthday and got you a present. Many men (not mine thankfully) DON'T!
#3. If the gift card is really that far "off the mark", perhaps the communication is lacking in the "relationship". And if the communication is that poor, you certainly shouldn't be considering moving in together because that will just make matters worse! But that's just my two cents.
#4. Either don't be so materialistic and disappointed over a "gift card birthday present", or don't be so over-dramatic about it that it "ruined" your relationship.
2006-12-07 07:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by BB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty bad, if he wants to move in with you he should know enough about you to walk into a store and shop for you. It sounds like he's a cheap moocher that wants a place to stay and will date you for it. Move on.
My ex and I had dated for 2 1/2 years and every year he'd call my mom and ask her what I wanted for Christmas. He was such a cheap @$$, it always had to be less than like, $30. I'm not saying that money's important, but if you love someone enough to date them and be in a long distance relationship, money shouldn't be a problem (nor should taking off work at Friendly's Restraunt for your gf's 21st birthday). The last Christmas we dated he called my mom and the only thing on my list under $20 was yankee candles. So from the guy I loved and thought I would marry I got Yankee candles. We broke up a week later (not because of the gift, but the same day he said he wanted to "re-evaluate the relationship." He re-evaluated his way out of it).
2006-12-07 08:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No gift is bad if the giver gave it with good intentions. Sounds like he did. Besides a gift isn't something that is owed or an obligation. It sounds like you're treating it as such. He did not have to get you anything. The fact that he did showed that he cared enough about you to make that effort.
Sure, A gift card in my opinion isn't a great gift. Giving a gift the recipient doesn't like may be poor planning, but complaining about a gift recieved is just rude.
2006-12-07 07:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know....
If you've been dating the guy for a long time (more than six months) then he should be able to pick out a gift for you.
But....Maybe he wanted to get you something that you would like and figured you could pick out the best gift.....Have you complained in the past about his tastes? Maybe he was tired of trying to do right and not being able to......Did you drop any hints of something you wanted?
How has his gift ruined your relationship? That's kind of lame if it's true.
2006-12-07 07:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on a relationship with this guy...then that episode will be the first of many disappointments. You should be glad he didn't forget your birthday. He didn't want to get you something you didn't like, so he tried the "ever-so-fashionable" gift card. A lot of people love them.
You have got to lighten up. Life is too short to stress over nonsense like that!
2006-12-07 07:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dixie Dingo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh if that's gonna ruin your relationship then it must not have been very good to begin with!
My husband is the worst gift giver ever ! A gift card from him would be a BIG improvement! That being said, it did not split us up even when we were dating lol.
2006-12-07 07:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lily18 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think a gift card was the best possible gift from my wife since she is so bad at buying me things I want. But I realize it doesn't work the other way. Give him time to figure that out.
2006-12-07 07:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, a gift card is rather impersonal, but what's more important is the INTENTION behind it. Your boyfriend probably thought long and hard about what you'd like, and most likely had trouble with this (thus the gift card idea). But look at it this way--he wanted to get you something that you'd like by giving you the power to choose. He's just trying to please you. It's a good thing that he's putting your wants/needs first! Men are helpless...cut him a little slack.
2006-12-07 07:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋