This guy wants to take me to lunch...but he's the type that makes uncomfortable conversation (talks about other co-workers) and invades your personal space (talks really close to your face, hand on shoulder, etc.) Bottom line, I just want nothing to do with him...but can you say no when they ask you to go to lunch? How can you appropriately handle this situation? Advice!
2006-12-07 07:17:42 · 25 answers · asked by should be working 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Addition: He asked me to lunch for tomorrow. I said I already had plans with my boyfriend, but thank you. He asked me on the spot if next week would be better. I said yes...didn't know what to do! Now he's checking his calendar for next week! Advice?
2006-12-07 08:31:09 · update #1
You can either...
1. Say thanks, but no thanks
2. Say thanks, but not thanks and give a reason why not. (You have to run errands or....)
3. Accept the invitation and invite one or two other people.
4. Accept the invitation. Change the subject whenever he talks about something that you don't want to talk about. Physically put something in between you so that he can't talk too closely or whatever.
2006-12-07 07:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel you. There is a person like that in my office. I can't stand a minute one-on-one with that man.
My advice for you:
Tell the guy you can not join him for lunch because you are on a detox fast and don't eat any regular food - plus you would not be able to stand looking at him eating while sipping on your detox tea, either.
How is that?
2006-12-07 07:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Violetta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so weird. I just posted a similar question about that problem. The advice I have been getting is to tell this person not to mix business with personal relationships. I know it's the right thing to do, but sometimes it's hard to tell someone that, without making them feel like crap. But, I really think it's the best way to handle it.
2006-12-07 08:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by Seven Costanza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the extreme highway - end writing him, seeing him, conversing to him, and so on., and forget approximately approximately him. First, that is going to show you how to to get greater tender on your new place because of the fact which you at the instant are not aggravating approximately him. 2d, you could not be confronting him, which he needs. third, that is going to force him loopy, that's the better area. If he yells at you throughout conferences, tell him that if desires to communicate with you, he may well be civil or on no account. Your supervisor could back you up. This guy is nuts, and a administration freak. end apologizing for identifying to purchase the placement - help your supervisor and do the terrific interest you could. good success!
2016-10-17 22:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just politely say no thank you. You do not need further explanation unless he requests one. Then you may continue to inform him of how uncomfortable he makes you feel. You should never feel obligated to go anywhere with anyone who makes you feel like that. I'm sure he will understand. If not, you may be telling him something he wasn't aware of and will work to prevent that behavior in the future. Thank you.
2006-12-07 07:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you've thought it over, and you don't think it's a good idea to mix work with social activities on a one-to-one basis with the opposite sex. Tell him group lunches are fine, though, and would he care to invite some other people?
Chances are, he won't want to do that, so your problem should be solved.
2006-12-08 00:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you have other plans or already brought your lunch. Or, if they suggest a restraunt, say you don't like what they suggest every time. That may help.
2006-12-07 07:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not your boss then just flat out say no. Besides if the guy's as obnoxious as you describe, then you really shouldn't worry about hurting his feelings by declining. If he's someone you wouldn't associate with, don't. Good luck.
2006-12-07 07:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, thank you, I have other plans. If he persists, just tell him you're not interested. If he continues after that, report it to Human Resources and let them deal with it. You are under no obligation to go to lunch just because you work together.
2006-12-07 07:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Roberta 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Politely decline and tell him you enjoy eating lunch alone.
2006-12-07 08:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by texan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋