saying "GOOD BOY"?

Question

ok little question here, i work in daycare with toddlers. i got shouted at today by my team leader (the highest supervisor in the building) for calling a child a "good boy" for drinking his water in a cup with no lid.

please tell me is she talking utter rubbish to annoy me (she has a habit of just giving orders because she knows shes the boss)

i have never heard of this rule before, only that u cant say "bad boy"

she said i need to say "great boy" in stead of good boy but thats the exact same thing if u ask me!

if u cant say it i would have loved to have known when i started my job (2 years ago!!!!!!!!)

shes not my "BOSS" shes the supervisor. she pays no wages. shes just an ars*e!

Answer 1

i absolutely agree with you!! children need to be praised when they're doing something right and scolded when they're not. i could see saying "great job" but "great boy" just sounds dumb. i tell my son he's a good boy or he's the best boy all the time and he's doin' just fine. he's very polite and doesn't think that he's better than other children. ask ur team leader her reasoning behind not wanting u to say "good boy" and what the difference is (not in front of the children) and see what she has to say. there might be a method behind the madness, but prolly not.

Answer 2

I don't like saying "good boy" or "great boy" at all. I would just say "You drank that water out of a cup with no lid." with obvious pleasure. If we tell them they are good it doesn't accomplish anything. I don't like "good job" for the same reason (especially if it's said for something that's not even a big deal. Once we were sharing a playground with a preschool and my daughter went down the slide. The teacher told her "good job" and I thought that was weird.) I just praise the accomplishment. Drinking out of a cup doesn't make him "good" any more than spilling it would have made him "bad". If you do feel a need to label good or bad, label the action and not the child.

Answer 3

Yes, it's utilising the Lord's title in useless. When you are saying the ones matters, I'm making a bet it as a rule has not anything to do with God or Jesus, proper? It's simply an expression, sure, however it is a disrespectful one, I feel. What if anyone stated your title whenever they had been pissed off approximately anything? Honestly, while you say it, it sort of seems like you're pissed off with Jesus or God. I'm no longer condemning you right here, however do attempt to quit, in your possess well. I'm at that situation myself, I've had anger disorders for many years, and I additionally paintings with plenty of folks who swear. So it is hard to not do it too, notably whilst I lose my cool. But I had been attempting fairly tough to quit. I do suppose it is taking the Lord's title in useless, so whenever I trap myself, I say sorry to the Lord and ask for his forgiveness. When I do this, it additionally serves to chill my mood.

Answer 4

Sounds a bit ridiculous to me. I prefer to say 'good job' with lots of enthusiasm. I think I would have had more of a problem with the word 'boy' than 'good' but only because it sounds like you're talking to a dog or something. Its probably just a power trip though. Of course if she's your boss there isn't much you can do about it.

Answer 5

The only thing i know about saying "good boy" is my husband can't stand it when i say that to our sons, because he says good boy is something you say to a dog, not a child. If your boss is saying to say "great boy" that is the same exact thing in my opinion and if this is the only problem your boss has with you and the children, she needs to just keep her mouth closed, there is a lot worse things you could say to a child then good boy. I see nothing wrong with it! Good luck!

Answer 6

I hear adults call children "good boy" or "good girl" many times before. It all depends how you say it really because sometimes it sounds as if you are speaking to a dog...you have to make sure when you say it you don't sound like that because then the children might start thinking they are equivilent to a pet. I don't think you should have to say great boy though, it doesn't sound right and i have never heard that in my life

Answer 7

OMG Your boss just sounds like a control freak. I can understand not saying a child is bad, but saying "good boy" has nothing wrong with in it. Maybe you should create cheers gimme a G, gimme an R, gimme an E, gimme an A, gimme a T! What's that spell? My boss is crazy!

Answer 8

To me, it sounds as though the supervisor might have an issue with "good boy" because of its correlation to the way a human would speak to an animal.

It is often used to praise pets vs. children.

For my nephews, as I am only blessed with a daughter, I've used "good job" instead of "good boy". It gives the same message without the negative connotation.

Answer 9

It sounds to me that team leader has a problem with his/her self worth. Sometime when a person has low self esteem they will try to project an image that they fill will give them the respect that they think they deserve.
As for the statement " good boy", there is nothing wrong with that, but I would look around before you say it. You won't convince your team leader that it's ok to say that.

Answer 10

that seems so silly! It seems like she just needed someone to pick on, and you happened to be the one. I agree with you,what the heck is the difference between the two. I hope she didn't scream at you in front of the kids, that may confuse them, not to mention it was totally uncalled for. You should go to the person above her and explain the situation.