Why does it seem that to find true happiness with someone of the opposite sex you have to settle?

Question

It's been 10 months and I have not had a date or any prospects are my standrads too high. All I want is someone taller than me, handsome with a good job that's not crazy and doesn't sleep around!

Answer 1

Hang in there and don't settle because you will not be happy. The right one will come along. In the mean time go out and have fun. Do things that you like to do. Just be patient. When you quit looking that's when he will come around. DON'T EVER SETTLE!
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Answer 2

Well think about the question you just asked. What happens If you found someone taller than you, handsome with a good job that's not crazy and doesn't sleep around, and you are still not happy. I would rather settle and be truly happy then be with someone that I THOUGHT was good for me and be miserable.

Answer 3

I think the same thing, are my standards to high? Am I just that far out of touch from the hip singles scene? Then I remembered the one time I settled thinking she would be grateful to have someone as caring, handsome, successful and educated as my self and after letting go just to feel love again, 2 1/2 years into this relationship she was pregnant and it wasn't mine. so I say, NEVER SETTLE if you do you will never find equality, hence never true love. Exactly how tall are you? Less than 6'3"?

Answer 4

When you settle for something you end up with something you didn't want in the first place (like if you go to the store to buy apples, but there's no apples, so you get oranges instead. You didn't WANT oranges, but you settled for them).

Be patient, keep your standards where they're at, and don't give up. Your expectations for Mr. Right don't seem to be extreme or unreasonable, and you don't really seem to want all that much. You never know who you'll meet 5 minutes from now.

Good luck to you and don't quit.

Answer 5

your standards are not too high. if u get someone that sleeps around he will soon leave u anyway. And guys/girls need to have a good job and be motivated to have goals in life. I am picky about guys too. It is hard to keep standing up for what a person wants when other people push them around. My relationships never lasted very long, and sometimes i just think yeah, guys can just leave me alone, because i would rather be alone than with a loser.

Answer 6

Don't think of it as settling. If you look at it as "settling" you will never be happy. Think of what you are getting when you consider a person. If you like thier qualities so far, then give it a try. You don't have to stay with anybody. That's why relationships happen before marriage.

Answer 7

you just have to accept that no guy is perfect....i met a guy who had everything i wanted, and it actually turned out to be nothing that i wanted. now i'm dating a guy that is the complete opposite of almost everything that i want in a guy. its just meeting someone that can litterally become your best friend for life. he is not going to have everything you want. its accepting eachother for who you are. its nice when someone has a couple of faults. it makes the relationship more interesting. i say, dont have so many standards, just keep your eyes open on a few realistic things that you want.

hope this helps!

Answer 8

You don't settle, you learn to compromise with your partner. Maybe it's just not the right time for you. Love come when it's supposed to, not necessarily when you want it to. But a relationship always requires compromise.

Answer 9

Because all the tall ,good looking, employed, sane, loyal men are looking for a tall good looking employed , blond goddess. They don't want to settle either.

Answer 10

Dont settle.You have to realize that EVERY man has faults like we do.Maybe you need to be more patient,and understanding.Your standards are not too high.Good luck tho:-)