My fiancee's mom wants to talk to me about why i love her son, i do love her son. She over heard one of are little fights we were having when he was at his house (We both still live with are parents) we have had some pretty mean fight. He hung up with me and then she was asking him if i really loved him or not (that is what he told me)! She was asking because they think it is weird i do not show emotion torward jon when i am at his parents house (like kiss him and cuddle)! I don't cause it is kind of weird cause i feel his mom is always keeping a close eye on me! His mom likes me and everything, she is kind of nosey! So she is planning on having a talk with me the next time i am at there house, and i am really scared to talk to her, because i have no idea what the questions could be! She was telling jon i am only going to talk to her to try to save your guys relationship! What is every elses opion on this?!! Thanks!
2006-12-07 07:00:41 · 15 answers · asked by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would talk to her, and tell her that you love her son very much, and everyone that in a relationship has fights and that it is normal. and about showing your emotion in front of them that your choice just tell her you feel real uncomfartable on doing that, but it has nothing to do about the way you feel for her son, don't be scared to talk to her. and be honest with your answers for her questions, she just loves her son. and maybe that one way to get to know you better, and tell her your not taking her son away that she is gaining a daughter in law. you two can work it out. and it will be find. so remember be honest with her, and if she asks personal question, just tell her that is between you and jon and you two can work it tell her that you appriciate her concern and if you need some advice that you will talk to her. good luck.
2006-12-07 07:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 15, moms and dads are divorced: area of what brought about it: no longer talking out complications. Yeah, anyhow, leaving issues interior the bottom of the pot to brew and advance bitter isn't good, once you've a difficulty convey it up, also why is he mad at them? only reason behind the undesirable impact? nicely i agree no longer enable the youngster stay there unsupervised as they drink and smoke precise there, yet to the beginning? First you aren't from now on allowed to smoke at the same time as the guy is giving beginning (interior an identical room a minimum of) and it really is kinfolk, no matter how a lot you hate them you won't be able to damage out.
2016-11-24 21:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by ayoub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she starts in on you tell her in a very nice way that "although I appreciate your concern and caring this is a private matter between me and Jon and I will not discuss this with you." If she persists tell her"I am sorry you feel the need to know about my private business, if you won't drop the subject I guess I'll have to leave" If Jon discusses private matters with his Mom he needs to stop. Honestly she's probably trying to break you up. My mother in law did same thing. Except she succeeded. My husband and I went through several months of h*** before we worked things out. We no longer even speak to the underhanded sneaky b****. Just my thoughts. If you don't stand up now she will run all over you until you've had enough and leave him.
2006-12-07 07:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by flfox 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first explain to her that you do love her son and that all couples fight. Try and make a connection by saying something like, "I bet you and your husband had some hard times. That's just what me and your son are going through." If you guys love each other it'll work. Most people break up because they aren't willing to compromise and work things out, but explain to her that you and your guy try to work things out. Explain that while you love her son, you don't think it's respectful to always be cuddling and kissing your guy in front of her because you don't want to offend her, because some moms are kind of protective of their sons. So good luck and best wishes to you!
2006-12-07 07:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by johnnydepp247 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are too afraid of her. You want to marry him not her.
Second of all, you need to work on communication with Jon. If your fights are mean now, they will be much worse when you live together. If you two cannot learn to communicate without nasty fights, then you should not get married.
Your future mother-in-law may be a bit over protective, but it sounds like she might be right in some aspects. Fighting in a marriage is normal, but you are not even married yet and you are already fighting. Couples may argue but they should not have nasty fights.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-07 07:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with talking to your soon-to-be mother-in-law. She wants to help you guys work out your relationship. She has many experiences and she may give you tips or advices on what to do when something like that happens again. I think she cares about you and your fiancee so don't be scared to talk to her.
2006-12-07 07:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Confused Loner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance, she just wants to make sure that you will make her son happy. If her questions get too personal, just tell her that this is something between you and your fiance. Reassure her and tell her that you love her son and that you'll do whatever you can to make him happy.
It is a step that you will have to take, and it's better to have your mother in law on your side than against you.
2006-12-07 07:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that she is going to be your mother in law when you answer any questions. Be honest and tell her how you feel, but also tell her that the two of you are fine and can handle any problems that will arise between the both of you, but thank her for her concern and let it go at that.
2006-12-07 07:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~She sounds nosey to me too. Don't be afraid of her or what she thinks. This is between you and Jon, not her. If you show your fear now, she'll take advantage of that.
You should have a talk with Jon about him telling her about your problems.~
2006-12-07 07:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you 2 are in love and getting married just talk to her and be polite to her, she just wants to see what kind of person you are and find out what made her son fall in love with you
2006-12-07 07:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋