I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. I love him very much and he is perfect for me. My family is attached to him too. I'm only 17 though and sometimes I get curious about this other guy. I know we wouldn't have much of a future like my boyfriend and I will but he intrigues me. I want to just have fun with this guy but I don't want to risk losing something that I might not ever find again.
2006-12-07 06:57:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You made the biggest point, you are only 17. You have much more to grow and learn and so does your current boyfriend. If you two can be close friends, but not be steady, that would be the most optimal situation for you guys. You should make a pact with the boyfriend you are currently with: say after you both graduate college and ready to settle down, then agree to make a choice at that time whether to get serious or not. Truthfully speaking, you and him are probably goal oriented, you want to cater your life towards your career goals and so will he. Most likely you will have to separate from him to attend a college that is strong in your major of interest. He will too. After college, you may have to settle in a region to get hired for your work. And he will too. So many forks in the road of the future is going to rip you two in different directions, so thats why I'm saying that a pact is the best thing to do so that once you and him are settled down, then you can see about being together forever. Yes, it is a risk that will be taken, and emotions will likely be stirred, but the thing is to not stop yourself from avoiding the inevitable. It is also risky not to do anything. Go ahead and date this other guy, your destiny will be what it will be, its really out of your own hands. Enjoy your life, I hope I touched it for even for just a second, and that I gave you something to really think about.
2006-12-07 07:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by mulderlx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhh, hello?? Is anyone in there? You know this other guy offers you no future, but you want to run around with him any way? Maybe it's just because you're 17 or maybe it's because you're CRAZY!! Let me tell you that life is not going to be kind to you when you get older if you're always look at the other side of the road and thinking that the grass is greener.
However, if you really love your boyfriend and if you're getting your needs met, would this other boy be so intriguing? You have bigger questions to answer than what you're currently looking at, so dig deeper honey.
2006-12-07 15:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if your thinking this way then your not ready to settle down and that's how you should be feeling at 17.
My advice would be that if you really feel this way explain to your boyfriend that you love him but feel that your still young and don't want to settle down now but don't tell him about this other guy. Explain that if you meet him later on then he would be perfect for you but not right now.
If you love him and your right for each other then you will end up together later on and it will be stronger than ever as long as you don't cheat as it will change who he thinks you are.
I was in the same situation as you and after a few other relationships and some fun including travelling that i really wanted to do we are now back together and are planning to start a family next year when we're both 25.
Good luck!
2006-12-07 15:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, if he was perfect for you I guess you wouldn't be looking would you? Girl let me say this the grass isn't always greener on the other side. I think it is human nature to be curious about someone else..but don't act on it. Thats the problem almost everyone wants to have there cake and eat it too. Don't be selfish or you will be the one who will lose..and you will have regrets. Trust me on this one I am a mature age...
it's okay to look honey but don't touch..Remember this...YOU JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN WITH THIS GUY..AND I AM SURE IT IS MUTUAL>>BUT YOU WILL LEAVE EMPTY for what just a great night of sex or a short fling...DON"t do it.
2006-12-07 15:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass isn't always greener on the other side! Always remember that! What you have now is not worth losing. If you want to mess around then let him go, but then you will realize just how good you had it. What you want is what you can't have. If you truly are happy forget about the rest, but if you aren't happy and would rather go else where do so, but without being unfaithful. Good Luck!
2006-12-07 15:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by cowgirl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't EVER cheat on a guy. If you really love your boyfriend like you say you do, you wouldn't even think about actually doing it. Do you know how much pain and misery you would cause your boyfriend? Obviously he needs to find someone better. Also it doesn't matter how old you are. you sound immature.
2006-12-07 15:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by nothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you're 17 it's not like you're going to marry this guy. You and your boyfriend should "take a break" just be willing to accept that he will probably be doing exactly what you are doing except with more girls. And after all is said and done he may not want you back and vice versa.
2006-12-07 15:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by flfox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about another guy, then your boyfriend is not that perfect. What happens if you see another guy, and then another one later? Would you still think that your boyfriend is the one? Sometimes you cannot have everything. Think about it and stick with whatever your decision ends up being.
2006-12-07 15:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by sosoa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young! You shouldn't be in a serious relationship right now anyway. It's natural to want to explore at your age. Don't be worried about never finding it again. Because most likely you will.
2006-12-07 15:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not, the grass is not always greener on the other side. Why cant you be happy with what you have? Why are we always searching for something else? But if the shoe was on the other foot you wouldnt like him doing that to you. So be happy in your situation or get out of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-07 15:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋