My girlfriend and me broke up over a week ago and I miss her like crazy. She does this every once in a while when she gets tired of the relationship. We live 250 miles apart and she wanted me to move to be with her. Every few months she breaks up with me and tells me not to call her, don't email her, and take me off her IM. After a while, I contact her and sometimes when she's ready she talks to me again. We start out as friends then she wants me to visit and we become more then friends. I love her very much and I miss her. Should I contact her or wait and see what happens? She's very stubborn so I doubt she contacts me first. What should I do? In the past I have sent her Roses and now she won't even except those so I don't send them.
2006-12-07 06:56:23 · 13 answers · asked by Patrick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on...
2006-12-07 06:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are a challenge. Since you've made it clear that you're crazy about this girl, I suggest you contact her again. Tell her that you're sorry (even if you don't think you owe her an apology) and ask what the best way is to make it up to her. Hopefully, she'll talk to you at that point and you'll find out what's really bothering her. If she won't take your calls, send her a 'mushy card' signed...love ________' and see what happens. She sounds like she's worth the extra effort. Good Luck
2006-12-07 07:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not contact her. She is playing head games with you and hurting you and that is not right. When you love someone you don't hurt them or atleast you try not to.....I would give it a few weeks and see if she calls you. If you still want her back as badly after some time, then call her, but sit down and talk to her and tell her that this is the last time you will do this and that she is hurting you.....if she really cares about you she will try to change.....if she doesn't then it's up to you to be strong and let her go......it seems like she has a lot of growing up to do.
2006-12-07 07:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Scuba's girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know some girls are players too and maybe she is one of them. I would not pursue her, let her come to you. If she doesn't you should move on to a nice girl who will feel the same way about you. She does this every few months when she gets tired of the relationship? That's just weird. Move on.
2006-12-07 07:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you miss her! You make the first step. Try and find out if she still wants to be with you and work it out. In the end at least you have given her the chance to express her true feelings of the relationship. Good luck :)
2006-12-07 07:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by colebrown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you're trapped in a rather unpleasant cycle. If she's asked you not to contact her - don't. Leave it be - do you really want to be stuck in the same cycle forever. Either it will be over for good - or she'll come to her senses on her own - stop wasting you time and efforts on someone who obviously doesn't appreciate it.
2006-12-07 07:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps maybe you should let her go and find someone closer to you. The fact that she breaks up with you quite a bit probably means it puts strain on her to be in the relationship. It might be better for both of you.
2006-12-07 07:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Greske 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but you lost your "man-card." Reclaim your cojones, and end all contact with her. Start hanging out with your close friends, move on, meet new girls who'd treat you like a god, and let your ex chase you. Here's a bit of advice, girls don't like guys who have no backbone.
2006-12-07 07:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by eh! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her roses and show up with them at her front door!! explain to her how strongly you feel for her. and maybe you should consider moving to her.... if you love and miss her as much as you say you do, then you'd move! no questions asked!
good luck!!
you're gonna need it, girls are stubborn and sometimes bitchy!
2006-12-07 06:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude. If she keeps breaking up and getting back together just dump her. Doesn't sound like she loves you as much.
2006-12-07 07:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by BassMasta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her exactly how you feel but also give her an ultimatum.. she can't keep doing this to you, but maybe if she knows how serious you are she might be more comfortable.
2006-12-07 06:59:50 · answer #11 · answered by Melanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋