My ex and i broke up a week ago, reason was "space". She tells me that she knows that where going to end up together but for now she needs space. but the thing i dont understand why would u need space from a person that you "love", "care" so much about?? shes told me that she sin't even taking off the pictures from her wall or wallet. what should i do, what kind of contact should i keep, should i ask her to chill with me as friends maybe see a movie. I was thinking of making her a love song cd for christmas. Should i just move on, this is so hard on me. I love this girl so much, would do anything for her. Some ppl where telling me to make it seem that i dont care about her. I like the saying " you dont know what you had until its gone" right??
2006-12-07 06:51:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
giv her space donught!!!!!!
2006-12-07 06:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by *~!HoTpOcKeTs!~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok her tactics are controlling ie) I wont take down your pictures (so you wont) or telling you you will end up together (Ill look around and if no one better comes along Ill come back to you - but in the mean time dont replace me). This may be hard to hear right now and you might need to come back to this answer later to really hear it when you are not so raw. She is using you as a stop gap in the hope something different/better comes along. If it does she wont return to you, if it doesnt she will. If she really loved you and knew you were the one she would never ask for space, she would snap you up and hope you thought she was just as special every day. Maybe its time you took your own personal power back and see how you feel by removing her photos and dating someone else? You might find she isnt the person you love so much and see theres lots of other girls out there for you - and ones that wont want SPACE, but will want YOU. :)
2006-12-07 07:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard. I was once in a relationship where my bf was telling me that he needed space. After a long time of being together he needed time to think. I was like what the hell is that. What do you need to think about? I hated the idea and was pushy and never did give him is space. So we wound up breaking up. (which I am totally ok with now) my point being, if you truly do love her, and want to continue to be with her, give her some space. Maybe there are things in her life that she need to figure out on her own. It does not mean she does not love you. BUT as long as she is not seeing other people, that is just an excuse to cheat. If what she really needs to do is spend some time by herself, give her that time. The relationship might wind up being better than ever when things get back to normal.
Just hang in there.
2006-12-07 06:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do save yourself a lot of grief is to give her ''space'' that she desire.Let her go.Someone who truely loves you shall never ask for a silly thing called space.I mean somethin called space doesnt make any sense between two people who are very much in love with each other.Did you ever think about having a space between the two of you?,A relationship isnt worth enough to stay if a small thing called space can shake it soo hard.
Remember your life should not become a consequence of somebody else's choices,if it does,it means that the other person doesnt care much about your needs and feelings.She is the one missing out on someone special who truely loves and cares about her,you are missing out on someone ordinary who is self centered and cares less about relationship.
2006-12-07 07:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult dilemma you are in. I know you want to win her back, but making a fool of yourself is not the answer. Give her the space she asked for, and while you have your space, take advantage of her. It could be that maybe you are just afraid of starting over, without her. But you may find that this is good for you too. If you must pursue this love you say you feel, then be careful not to let her step all over you. Good luck.
2006-12-07 06:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by belinda f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appears like you're slightly damage and wondered, and that i'd be, too. i'd digital mail her decrease back and make an apology for exploding at her, yet then ask her - Why did not she inform you that she became going to might want to leave? What were her intentions at the same time as she became with you? You idea you 2 had some thing going, did not she sense an identical? you've a precise to carry close, and in case you nonetheless opt to be with this woman, you're going to might want to locate a thanks to communicate which includes her and get solutions. good luck :)
2016-11-24 21:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by ayoub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to anything more than give her her space. Hang out with your buddies, call her occosianally, and make sure she knows you love her and are waiting. Just don't wait to long, and don't let her screw with you (i.e., don't look the other way if she's with another guy.)
I needed space from my boyfriend at one point, too - it lasted 6 months, and now we've been married for 3 years. If I hadn't gotten away for awhile, I wouldn't have know what I had.
2006-12-07 06:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love her but apparently she doesn't know whether she loves you or not. I would just leave her alone as hard as that may be and if she really does have feelings for you, she will contact you. If you don't hear from her in a reasonable period then go on with your life.
2006-12-07 06:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her have her space. I know its hard but if she just wants her space respect that. Just be friends for awhile and wait for her. Don't act like you don't care or she might think you don't and won't come back. Like i said just respect her wishes.
2006-12-07 06:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Shortie<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, there are 2 possiblites. Either that she wants to break up with you politely or she wants to take control over this relationship, I think this is more probable. In both way neglect her completely and I recommend that you date another girl and make sure she knows. Then flirt with her from time to time to get feedback. I think she will know who is the man in this relationship.
2006-12-07 07:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Bondok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally. just tell her that you hope she finds her space and have fun. Don't let her intefere. you may think that you love her, but enough beer and other girls will make you forget all about her. You have to let her see that you are not gonna roll over and die just because she is the one that is confused
2006-12-07 06:58:16 · answer #11 · answered by shady_charisma15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋