Is it love when a man says that he doesn't have money and he accepts to take this money from his recent girl?

Question

Only one month ago I ( 26 years ) met a nice guy ( 36 years ) through yahoo msngr, the relationship went very very fast to love, I do love him very very very much and he says he does as well, he lives very far away in one of Canada's canton, he says that he can't wait to see me in personal but he doesn't have the money to buy the airplaine ticket to my country , to be very honest he didn't ask for any money but I offered to borrow him the required amount, so he accepted this suggestion and promised to return it back on monthly basis, the total amount he needs is U.S. $ 3'000

I didn't transfer the money yet , my question is :
is it normal that a man accepts the help of the girl he just met, does he really love me, or he is playing around and try to have an advantage of my love to him ?

I'm really worried if this was something very normal, would it be ever a dislike for me ( in our future ) that I paid him the money to come & see me, would it be considered ever against me?

Answer 1

i think your moving too fast, you just met him via internet,
theres noting wrong with that.

but guys could tell u anyting and ******** you cuz its online, they got nothing to loose.

But dont sweat (Be all over him too much , show your really interested) cuz there is alot of oppurtunists around.

I sugest you dont give him money, cuz ounce a guy knows you got money, they gona use u and be a gold digga and take advantage of your love.

Why are you so desperate for love ? u just met him .
Wait it out. get to know him better before meeting him.

those internet things are phoney baloni made up fake stuff,

u need to meet somebody in person and find love not thru the computer.

usualllly insecure people are on those internet sites looking for luvin in the wrong places.

Answer 2

Be careful their have been scams just like this they do this with a lot of people once they get the money you never hear from them again. This could be a very good business. I am not saying he is doing this but I would not send him the money. Let him get his own loan from a bank and he can pay them back. Don't do it.

Answer 3

What happens if you send him the money and he doesn't come see you? People pull these scams all the time. He's probably married with a few kids and unemployed..

Answer 4

If you have only met him on Yahoo messenger, do not give him 3000 to fly in to see you. That is too much money to give someone. I can tell you that no matter how much my husband loved me before we were married, he would never have let me do anything like that. Please don't do it. I'm afraid you're in for a loss.

Answer 5

I can't get it.. how could you actually be "THAT MUCH" in love with a man you've only known for a month (not to mention online).
and if you really believe his story then don't wire the money.. BUY THE TICKET and send it to him. ;)

Answer 6

I think it's weird and that its a bad idea 2 loan him that much money, hes probablt gonna take it and never c u or pay u bak.

Answer 7

well, to me i wouldnt give anybody the money if i didnt know them even if its over the internet you still dont know each other he might not be what you expected and thats a waist in ur money and he might not ever repay you. but this is your choice..

Answer 8

personal i don;t think if guys should ask or take money from they gf, and my bf never ask me for money even when he don;t had any oh he (30) and i;m (20) and he always spend money and pay for everything when we go out

Answer 9

Okay. the dude is using you. Kevin Federline style, girl! Don't confuse it with love. He's obviously using you. You should dump his unemployed ***.

Answer 10

lol if u did pay him then u'd be falling into his hands. he's a scam artist. he's just trying to scam you out of $3,000. it doesn't cost that much to fly. just think of this as a lesson learned and move on.