I need your opinion.?
My boyfriend gets jealous if I talk to my guy friends. He doesnt try to control me by saying I cant talk to them. I dont find it fair, he can talk to all his friends that are girls but I cant get jealous. But if I talk to my guy friends then he flips out. I am not trying to make him jealous. I am afraid to talk to my guy friends b/c he will get jealous. Then if I do talk to them I tell him about it. Another thing, he can mention a girl is hot, but if I mention a guy being hot, he gets all insecure. Not fair. One more thing, he got a phone call from one of his girlfriends at 145 in the morning saying she cant sleep if he wants to talk. If one of my guy friends were to do that, he would be pissed. Am I being unreasonable here? What do you think?
2006-12-07 06:22:08 · 10 answers · asked by Maria S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him honestly that your relationship is secure and he doesnt have to worry about your friendship with other guys.Give him some time to get over his envy,if he doesnt seem to change dump him and move on.There are better guys out there for you who are broad minded and have nothin to do with jealousy.
2006-12-07 06:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Double standards. LOL!!! Been there and done that!!
He's being childish. You really should think about being in a relationship with this guy. The reason why he's flipping out is because he's not being faithful and figures that since he's not being faithful then you're not being faithful.
Oh and about the girl calling him at 1:45 am, I would have shoved that phone down his throat!!!
2006-12-07 06:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confer including your spouse about it. Jealousy is time-honored yet will become undesirable even as it finally ends up in significant mistrust or administration themes (which it very somewhat can). with any luck your spouse must be smooth to the issue and take measures to re-assure you or maybe one way or the different get rid of self from the enticements the flirter is providing. each and every courting faces stressful circumstances to attempt the dedication of the companions to at least one yet another. each and every so often the dedication is reinforced with techniques from the try, different situations the try proves right away what replaced into inevitable to ensue besides and also you ought to be grateful even as the discomfort is performed and also you bypass on to at least some thing more advantageous suited. I favor best of luck.
2016-11-30 06:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by winkles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitly not unreasonable, that is completely rediculous! If he can talk to his friends that are girls and get late phone calls from them and everything should be ok, then the same rules should apply to you. He seems to be very posessive of you, and you need to watch out, because those kinds of realtionships never end well. Good luck.
2006-12-07 06:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by gremlin1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being unreasonable. Don't put up with it. Talk to who you want to, when you want to. If he has a problem with it... remind him that it's HIS problem. He's insecure. You're dating him because you want to be with him...not because you want to be with him, and then be with other guys... what would be the point of that. He needs to understand that you're with him for a reason, and NOT with these other guys for a reason.
Also tell him.. his insecurities are going to push you away..he needs to learn to control them.
The WORST thing you can do for an insecure person...is give in to their insecurities... then you're rewarding bad behavior..and it'll only get worse.
2006-12-07 06:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this relationship is not healthy for you. Be very careful that the next thing he'll do is hit you just becuse you are talking to your guy friends.
I personally think that you should strart seeing other people.
2006-12-07 06:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being unreasonable. You need to come up with one standard for the both of you.
2006-12-07 06:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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the conditions being created are unfair to you as you say them.
you are discovering with him and others the ways of conditional love.....as are found in many (all) relationships.
double standards abounding.
it would be helpfull for you to search out what is meaning of jealousy. unless you want me to give it to you.
and jealousy is fear .
i don't know your age but you will come to ask yourself ... why ? what for ...? what is purpose in ''me'' ''us''....?
and these are acceptable to ask...
if there is any place in your relationship with him (or any other) to hear you when you feel/think it is right to search out meaning of relationship with him....
his listening indicates open mind and receptivity to also know what is 'conditional' for your relationship to be .
his non-listening indicates closed mind and non-receptivity to know what is value and purpose in your relationship .
these can be awkward realizations for person(s) of any age but if you are some successfull you will be ahead of the game for self love.
for the young there will be both receptivity and non-receptivity to 'listen' to discover conditions........
and/but there are benefits for their being enabled to share what has/are becoming ''realizations'' to them (any young) ... and must/should not be shut-out from their own experience(s).
hope this is helpfull . be well you .
2006-12-07 06:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by noninvultuous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a controlling boyfriend wil only lead to the relationship going outta control... men are hypocrites (sowwie! but true) try talkin to him about wat he's been doin... but if he doesnt pay heed, time to move on!! ;)
2006-12-07 06:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by Meooww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this.
http://www.emotions-amended.com/jealousy.php
2006-12-07 09:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by toko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋