How and when did you know your sig. other was "The One"?

Question

(For those people in a long term relationship only please)
How and WHEN did you know that you had found "the one", your so-called Soul Mate?

Well from the answer I have gotten I 'll say this: I am usually so jealous and insecure, I never worry about that stuff with him, I feel beautiful and happy and secure. Also, I RESPECT him, which I have NEVER really done before with a man I am dating b/c usually I don't agree with alot of their values. We finish each other's sentences and we laugh at all the same crap and we're both sentimental saps. I am not trying to have someone confirm if he is the one for me, I just wonder if these are the things people refer to when they say they "just knew"?

Answer 1

After dating for the past.. say 10 years..I have been out w/ so many losers. I've ignored so many red flags and always compromised my needs. Finally I meet Richie, and there's no drama, we hang out, we have meaningful conversation. He'll run out for me for cough medicine in the middle of the night, as I would for him.

When there is no drama and you find yourself in a situation where you are not asking 10 girlfriends their advice on something your rotten guy is doing, why he didnt call, why did he stand you up etc, you'll know he's the one. When you find real peace w/ your best friend. He's the one.

Answer 2

The moment I saw him. I was 19 and with my boyfriend. We went to visit a mutual friend and not long after we arrived he walked in. We didn't say one word to each other but when our eye's met we knew there was a connection. That night I dreamt of him, an incredible dream. That same night he went home and told his roommate that he met the girl he would one marry. Our relationship (friendship) grew over the next few months (obviously I broke-up with the guy I had been with) and by the end of the year we were living together. We have now been married 28 years. Our relationship is still incredible and we love each other today even more if possible than we did then. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to say that.

Answer 3

It's kind of cliche, but I just knew. Something inside said "this is who you will marry". Some times, I would sit and stare at my ring finger trying to picture the engagement ring he would put on my finger. And this wasn't too long after meeting him, either. I had never, ever done anything like that before.
My husband said he 'just knew', too. He said during a conversation we were having, something in his head said "this girl is wise, and wisdom comes only from God", so he knew I was the one God wanted him to marry. Yeah, I know, it's weird.

Answer 4

I knew right away. We had been friends for a couple months when he asked me out and I said, "No, then we'd have to get married." and he said, "So, how about Wednesday?" and we were engaged 2 months later. We've been married for 5 years now.

I just could tell that he and I had the same plans and expectations for our lives and we had the same values. All in all that is what matters.

Answer 5

This is really stupid but I swear this was my defining moment, and it was 8 years ago:
I sang the sunshine mustard song to my honey. you know the one:
you are my sunshine
my only sunshine
you make me happy when skies are gray
you know the rest- I'll spare ya
but my honey sang back
i'm stuck on bandaid cause bandaid is stuck on me-

you'll know when you have the ONE because you will find humor in the same things- you will be able to follow a train of thought after only a few words are spoken. good luck

Answer 6

My dear departed Aunt told me this: "wake up before he does and look at him, look at his face closely. If you can honestly say that you would gladly wake up to that face and the man behind it everyday for the rest of your life, you're truly in love".

I don't know if that helps at all, but it has helped me in love situations, "the one" situations.
Good luck girl, I hope you have a wonderful life together.

Answer 7

Soul mates aren't necessarily lovers or romantic partners...they can be anyone in our lives (of either sex) whom we feel a strong internal bond to...some people never meet anyone during their life that they feel that way about...

...but that doesn't mean they don't have wonderful and strong relationships...

As for 'the one'...there are many potentials out there for each of us...i've been married twice and each was 'the one' at that time...

Answer 8

HE WAS MY BEST FRIEND FOR 13 YEARS. I NEVER KNEW HE WAS IN LOVE WITH ME. SOMETHING JUST DRAWS YOU TO EACH OTHER, EITHER AS FRIENDSHIP, OR SOMETHING. LOOK DEEPER, SEE WHAT IS ON THE INSIDE.....HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR ME, AND ME FOR HIM, YA KNOW? IT WAS AWKWARD AT FIRST, BUT WHEN HE KISSED ME, THE EARTH MOVED, AND NOW AFTER 4 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, AND 13 YEARS OF FRIENDSHIP....NO DOUBT IN MY MIND....I AM THE WOMAN FOR HIM, AND HE IS THE MAN OF MY DREAMS.... AHH, LOVE IS BLISS.....GOD BLESS

Answer 9

This is going to sound really cheesy, but I knew from the first moment I met my husband that he was The One. When he shook my hand, I forgot my name. :) I knew.

Answer 10

looking back, i knew before we even started dating, but it took about 3 days from when we were officially bf/gf (just over 3 weeks from when we met, cuz we were friends first) for it to 'click ' in my mind.