what is learned bahaviour in children?

Question

the social worker said my son had "learned behaviour" from us as he has been aggressive ruse nad violent lately

Answer 1

She is saying that he learned this from home,,saying that your home is violent. Like if a kid swears for example,,he had to learn it from someone somewhere.Maybe your child didnt learn this from your home.Maybe he learned it in school?When a child's behavior changes,,Id recommend asking the child,,was someone mean to you,,touch you here or there etc.(some children act out when they have been abused) ~look into this further please.

Answer 2

Thank you for answering my question, my son has been acting out since he went into p7 and has just gone up to secondary school, he has been hanging out with a crowd of kids who drink, smoke etc and he is only 11 the other kids are 12 to 13. He smashed the window the other day so I called in a social worker to help us with him. My husband and I used to have a very turbulent and aggressive relationship with each other (not physically abusive) but my Son has witnessed this on more than one occasion when he was very young, my daughter was born 9 years ago and has not witnessed any of this as it had stopped by the time she was born.My social worker thinks that my son has leaned behaviour from us as he has been suppressing his feelings for a number of years and now since he has started secondary school it is all coming out. We have done triple P, Parentcaraft courses, reward systems, consequences and everything and anything we do does not seem to be working. We are always consistent ans we have been persevering with this for for over a year. This is why I needed to know what learned behaviour was as I am completely at a loss as to what to do next.

Thank you for answering my question and any more helps,suggestions and tips would be greatly appreciated.

from lunarsquishy

Answer 3

That would mean something he was not born knowing. Innate behaviors are thing we are born knowing or come to undertand i.e. a baby cries when it feels cold, hungry uncomfortable etc. This is innate, it does not observe other babies crying for something and immitate.

The learned behavior the social worker is speaking of is aggression in the house. Do you allow your son to watch violent television and/or movies? I don't mean R rated esp, but even Power Rangers can get a bit aggressive.
If you scream you will raise a screamer, if you hit alot instead of timeouts, this is how your child will deal with frustration. That is learned, not innate

I Hope This Helps,
Amy

Answer 4

Hi - hope this helps..........

'Learned Behaviour' doesn't only apply to children but to anyone.

It simply means that the behaviour being displayed is behaviour that isn't necessarily as the person would usually behave, but rather that the behaviour has been mimicked, copied or adopted because the person thinks that behaving this way will get the attention they require (sub consciously)

In a nutshell it may be that he is copying the behaviour he sees from yourselves (only you would know if you display that kind of behaviour to each other in front of him) or he has seen it from someone he admires (say for example a friend at school who behaves that way and thinks its cool).

In a way all behaviour is 'learned behaviour' as what we are tends to be the sum total of what we see hear and experience from others throughout our lives.

Answer 5

It means that he's showing behaviors that he has seen you and your spouse do. If you fight alot then that's where he's picking it up. Normally, learned behaviors are things that we learn from each other, not things that come naturally. For example, you have a child who's say about 5 or 6, and when he is angry he screams and argues, hits people, talks back and is just all around rude. Alot of times, they will do this because they've seen their father or mother treat each other that way. If say a father treats the mother like a slave, and talks down to her, the child will eventually do the same thing, because he thinks it's normal. Good luck......

I'm about to graduate with my Social Work degree

Answer 6

Children 'learn' from observation of their parents, siblings and those people who they are in contact with on a regular basis. It's a sort of Copy Cat behaviour which because of their lack of knowledge or experience of the world, they 'believe' is normal and acceptable... in so much as... if the parents are doing that, saying that etc.. then it must be acceptable and correct... so I can do it.
Hence, why such things as racism is learned behaviour, violence, incestuous relationships etc... all of which are not acceptable
whereas, manners, tolerance, learning are acceptable to society

Answer 7

Learned behavior is anything that has been picked up either consciously or subconsciously by the parents or guardians. Most behavior is learned by the parents or guardians.

A couple of examples:

A physically or verbally abusive spouse or partner. This teaches a child to hit or be rude. If you and your partner are arguing constantly your child can learn that it's okay.

A parent who constantly picks up after themselves. Their child will most likely pick up the habit.

A parent who jokes around a lot. Their child will most likely joke as well.

If a parent throws fits or gets frustrated easily. Normally a child picks up on that and behaves the same way.

It goes on and on. You need to sit down and think about all the behaviors your child watches. Think about how those can positively or negatively effect him and his behavior.

Answer 8

learned behavior is when a child sees something and they repeat it. it is something that a child wouldnt just think to do on their own, but after seeing someone do it, they repeat it. so what they are saying is that either you or the other parent have been aggressive, rude and violent either to him or in front of him.

Answer 9

Learned behaviour as in do as I say not as I do he he....... For instance it is said that if a child sees you and your partner being violent he will replicate that with his siblings or friends

Answer 10

well everything is learnt from the example we set ourselves unless your child has learning difficulties!! eg autism adhd etc then there behaviour is spontanious however i know what they mean for example i go mad at my son to be organised and yet im very dis organised not a good example im setting is it xxoh parenting is one big guilt trip sometimes