My boyfriend wants me to have sex and i don't want to cuz i'm only 13 but we've been together for a long time!!! What Do I Do????
2006-12-07 05:47:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't even consider it!! your way too young! if he pushs it DUMP him
2006-12-07 05:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG dont do it!!! A true man will actually wait until YOU tell him that you are ready to have sex and not the other way around. Trust me, I had sex with this guy, the second one I ever was with because he wanted me to and now Im going through a rough time cause he immediately dissed me and is now hitting up old friends right in front of my face, and obviously he hasnt called in three weeks since I turned him down for another round of sex. Its horrible girl, you deserve better. You are too young to be doing those things, trust me, live a little. Once you have sex you cant go back and it's known that girls who have sex at a younger age become more promiscuous and you dont want that to be you, right? Sex is addictive and it can lead you to bad ways if you are not mature enough to know how to control it. Trust me on that.
I assume this guy is older. Tell him to 'stroke his salame' for a few more years or until YOU tell him you feel comfortable enough to take such a big step. If guys feel that marriage or commitment is a big step, then they should be able to understand that loosing your virginity is in the same category and makes you feel as nervous as they do in the commitment department. After all, loosing your virginity is a big commitment too.
Good luck!
2006-12-07 14:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This shouldn't be a difficult decision on your part. The answer is NO. You have your whole life ahead of you. Sex is something that is cheap when done just to be having it. Intimacy between two people who love each other is to be cherished. It is an expression of the deepest love and concern one has for the other. It is to be held for the one who you really will love someday and want to marry and who will want to mary you because he loves you so much. To have sex just to be doing it will ruin your reputation and your boyfriend will more than likely brag to his friends how he seduced you and you will be looked upon as an easy mark. Is this what you want? I hope not. God never intended two people just to have sex but instead to be in love and cherish and support and adore each other.
2006-12-07 13:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty young to start having sex especially since you don't want to. I would tell him no and then if he doesn't stop pressuring you, then dump him. Read 1 Corinthians chapter 13 from the Bible to find out what true love demands from each side.
2006-12-07 13:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Future Citizen of Forvik 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am glad that you are mature enough to know that you are not ready. Don't do anything you will regret later. Don't allow anyone to force you into doing something you are not ready for. At age 13 you are not ready and I know the pressures that go on but think about pregnancy and diseases that you will deal with for the rest of your life. If he really cares about you then he will not pressure you, he will understand. If not then you need to find someone who understands how you feel.
2006-12-07 13:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are right to not want to have sex yet! 13 is WAAAYYYY too young! Tell him no, and if he has a problem with that...he is not a friend--let alone, your boyfriend. You will have to just forget about him and move on and find someone who respects you.
2006-12-07 13:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are to young please dont even consider it. Tell him no and that is that. IF he keeps pushing then he is no boyfriend at all. If he cared at all for you he will not push you esp if you have been together for awhile. Just because you are with someone for a long while doesnt mean you should have to sleep with him.
2006-12-07 13:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by chefaid90 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't want to and if he keeps pressuring you tell him you will tell your dad if he doesn't stop. Then if he doesn't respect your decision, dump him because that means he only wants the sex. If he still gives you a hard time, tell your dad and your mom.
2006-12-07 13:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean a long time?? You are only 13...
Dont do it, wait until you are mature enough to make that decision.
2006-12-07 14:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by slim27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick by your decision.So many girls out there jump into the sack with the first boy to come along.They always regret it.You're still young with a lot of years ahead of you.
2006-12-07 13:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by star_utsf 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the statistics are against you, but then, do you really want to be part of them, or above them? Save yourself until you truly care about someone and know that you can do it responsibly.
On the other hand, this is your choice, of course, and none of us can give you an unbiased perspective.
2006-12-07 13:51:05 · answer #11 · answered by bane10x 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋