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How can i get my two year old to sit quietly at functions, yes i know they cant sit for long but its rather hard to take her any where without me having to be rough with her. i just want her to stop screaming a behaving badly.

2006-12-07 05:38:34 · 7 answers · asked by Lady 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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Before you go to a sit down function take her to the park and let her get all her energy out. Try to plan functions when she's tired. Maybe she can take a nap laying on your lap. Bring some snacks in a baggie for her. Bring little toys or a coloring book and crayons. Try to keep her busy if she's not tired with quite activites.

2006-12-07 05:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Sitting still and screaming and behaving badly are two different problems to face.

Children need to be taught from day one that you are the mother and that what you expect is to be expected from them. Start now and be consistent. The screaming and behaving badly is disrespect for you. And, yes even at two they can show disrespect. The sitting still can be avoided by supplying coloring book, hand held game, something that keeps the attention span. It really depends on the situation in which you want the child to sit still. Church, teach the child to respect being there and this is the way it is no matter what. Most children will not sit for long periods of time. Mine never did. Even when he was in Kindergarten he would stand at his desk more than sit because he was comfortable doing that. But he respected his teachers. He respected us as parents and he knew right from wrong. Manners make a world of difference in a child.

But first you need to deal with the behavior problem and nip that in the bud. You are the mother and there is no reason to tolerate anything from your child you do not feel is appropriate.

2006-12-07 13:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

There is only a certain level of "goodness" to expect out of a two year old. She should be able to move around a bit and make noise quietly no matter where she is. I'm not sure if she just turned two or is soon to be three or in the middle, but when my son was two he had an extensive vocabulary so we played games (and still do now that he is 4). For example last night at dinner we played "Who said it?" I'd quote someone from the movie Cars (his favorite movie) and he'd tell me who said it. It's a great way to keep them quiet but entertained. You can also go the route of bringing a quiet toy or book to look at. But expecting a two year old to sit quietly with nothing to do is too much.

2006-12-07 16:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0 0

We have had this problem for years at my church. I'll tell you what my mom did and didn't do to make me behave.

Practice sitting and paying attention at home. If your child can sit for a minute without getting up or freaking out, give them a reward and praise them. Keep increasing the time you have her sitting. This will take a while, but it helps kids learn focus in a world where short attention spans are the norm.

Also, instill in your child now the idea of "a time to play, and a time to be serious." The idea nowadays is that disciplinging children is stifling them, but she will have to learn from now that there's an outside world that expects proper behavior. So, at dinner, emphasize that this is a time to be serious. In the car, at the store, any other place where she can't play--say its a time to be serious. Reward and praise her for her good behavior. Flipping gush about it. Kids love it.

If she's at an event and freaks out, take her out, but don't make it pleasant. Many of the moms at my church have made the mistake of taking kids out when they scream and then taking the time to feed them or let them run around to burn off steam. When you take her out, kneel down to her level, look her in the eye, and make it known that her behavior is wrong. Refuse to allow the corridor be the place where she can play, because if you do she quickly learns that she gets there by acting up.
So she can either learn that acting up will get her to a less boring place or she can learn that having to sit in the boring place is better than being taken out and discipline. At this age, maybe a picture book can keep her occupied.

Hope this helps.

2006-12-07 13:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by Reubs 3 · 0 1

Diet is often an issue here. Try not letting her eat any ready-meals or drink fizzy drinks or squashes. Drinks that are marketed to children are often stuffed full of sugar and e-numbers. Coke is notorious for its effects on kids.
You can make your own pizzas with a little tomato paste, mild cheese and pitta bread. I find it's best to cook toppings before putting them on the pitta bread, though. Cook in the oven or under the grill on a medium heat.
If she wants puddings and cakes, you can make them without too much trouble or additives. As a guide, 6oz of sugar, 6oz of margarine, 6oz of flour and 2 eggs is a good sponge base. From there you can add a teaspoon of cocoa powder or some mixed fruit for a little variety.
If you know any of this already, please excuse me.
Good luck.

2006-12-07 13:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

i work in a room in daycare with between 7-8 one year olds depending on the day. they sit every single day for toast time and snack time on a mat on the floor, they dont try to get up or move they sit quietly and happyily and eat their food. u should try to be consistant in what u are asking them to do - they should know whos boss and when u ask them to sit they should do as they are asked

u could maybe try asking him/her to sit quietly for shorter periods of time and then give them praise when they do, afterwards u could reward them in various ways etc

2006-12-07 14:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I AM GOING THRU THE SAME THING WITH MY 4 YR. OLD SON. AND WHAT I DO IS IF HE MISBEHAVES I WILL TAKE HIM TO THE RESTROOM AND SPANK HIM OR EITHER REMIND HIM HOW HE ACTED WHEN WE GET HOME AND PUT HIM TO BED 30 MIN. EARLIER THAN USUAL, FOR HIS PUNISHMENT. BUT IF YOU WAIT TIL YOU GET HOME MAKE SURE TO REMIND THEM SO THAT THEY WILL UNDERSTAND WHAT'S GOING ON. REMEMBER YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT THIS IS HAPPENING TO... I FEEL YOUR PAIN!! GOOD LUCK !!!!!

2006-12-07 13:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by babyboo 3 · 0 1

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