my boyfriend that i loved just dumped me for another woman...i'm very hurt..how do i get over a broken heart...
2006-12-07 05:36:16 · 42 answers · asked by the1lady4u07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Learn from it and move on. Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. It was once said to me by a friend/counselor that if you want to get over a relstionship then only remember the bad but if you want to continue a relstionship then only remember the good. However, I am just a regular person and I try to put things into perspective and see what I can learn from the good and bad. Each relationship reflects something about ourself. What did you put into the relationship that you excelled at? Things you are proud of? Repeat these character assets in the next relationship. What did you fail at? What could you have done batter? Improve on these areas. Try not to dwell on the person you broke it off with, but rather appreciate what you recieved from him/her and move on. This is a chance for you to grow and mature in the person you are and are becoming. You will become a better person and will find a better mate. Never carry resentment, anger or bitterness. It would only harm you, instead love and be loved. Forgive others and forgive yourself. Look forward to new adventures. Get excited about life. Do not go out looking for a mate. When the right person comes along, it will happen almost by accident. Those in search of a mate, ususally do not find the lifelong partner. When you are excelling at being you and living your life and dreams...the person will just come into your life because it is good and right and it will be a good match. Just be the best at being you! Peace & love to you!
2006-12-07 05:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Shayna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy cure for this. Unfortunately, we all have gone through this. It will take some time and "no" it won't be easy. You have to slowly decrease him out of your system and turn that hurt into strength. You have to get over it no matter what, there's no easy way around it. Focus on "self," it's his loss. Trust me that the day will come when he feels 10x worse than you do right now. It just goes to show you that he didn't deserve you anyway and someone will come into your life that will fit like a glove. If you are a spiritual person prayer definitely can't hurt. In time things will be okay. Trust me, I've been down that road a few times but I survived and so will good. Take care of yourself.
2006-12-07 05:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get actively involved in something like work, or a hobby. It will take your mind off of him part of the time. It takes time to heal a broken heart, so how you spend your time is all that can help you. Sure you could go out drinking and dancing or whatever, if you want to meet some new guy. But really, the best thing for you is to get agressive with your school, or career. That's the best thing for it. Let time pass, you'll meet someone new. Trust me, nice guys like me are out there. You just have to be patient.
2006-12-07 05:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
like everyone said TIME is the answer, try not to get even with him by causing trouble all that does is make the new girlfriend feels as if she is better than you. Be the big person and move on. It has happened to me and I moved on and he realized that he was wrong and apologize later it well get better and I know that you are hurting but hurt is a part of life. IN TIME!
2006-12-07 05:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by Cowgirl Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i ahve to congratulate you as a free, single woman~~! the guy who dump you just loss a chance to be with th most intersting gal~~!so hang out with ur friends for shopping or a movie or ask your friend to spend a night to have pillow talk, my friend u must tell ur self u r lucky that u still have friends to hang out and care for you.
a break up is not end of the world,you must throw the old things to get a new one so that mean the next man u r metting is a better man so remember a break up is part of life you have to move forward to see better thing .
still thinking of him?then you should remind urself how bad is his breath, how worst is the hygine when it come to eating or .....etc that will make you fell better and sooner or later you will 4get about him.
2006-12-07 05:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound cliche, but really the one thing you have to do is stop thinking about him. one great way to do this is work out, watch a movie with the girls, go get pampered. Treat yourself. Concentrate on anything but boys. And one of the best things to do is to stay on a daily schedule. It keeps your mind occupied when you know exactly what you are doing.
2006-12-07 05:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by puppy#4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. Of course, a good looking stud for a moments pleasure, goes a long way in putting a smile on your face! Enjoy--life is too short to worry about people who don't care about us. Put a smile on your face and pretend you're fine, eventually you'll begin to believe it.
2006-12-07 05:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy go out with friends and loved ones as much as possible its best to stay busy to keep your mind off him so you don't call the jerk and you better not talk to him you deserve better and you know it. get a hobby start painting or read a good book, cooking always helps me. I know it sounds silly but time heals all wounds so in that time just stay as busy as you can. good luck
2006-12-07 05:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what goes around comes around. Whatever breaks do heal with time don't worry there is somebody out there will love you for you. Remeber unconditional love is the best love. Also pray
2006-12-07 05:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are incredibly resilient creatures. No matter how much pain we endure, most of us are able to move past any trauma. So in short, the best answer is time. Even if you do not feel it now, things will change.
2006-12-07 05:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by bane10x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋