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Ive been w/ my bf for 2 years now and we are at the stage where things are serious and comfortable. We are both in school, university and college. Im surprised at the type of releationship I have at such a young age, I never thought things would be so comfy. But somtimes I wonder if I should be dating other people since I havent dated that much but other times I think to myself that Im being stupid and why ruein a 2 yr relationship. My mom doesnt like him that much, but I cant see why and he has a lot of family problems. I deal w/ all the downsides of dating him as well as the good. Hes soo sweet, kind, and would do n e thing 4 me, and he loves me to bits. We tell eachother everything. I have a lot of guys asking me out, but I am very faithful and turn them down. What should I do? Am I still in love even though Im in that comfrotable stage? Should I be w/ him even though I think about dating others?
2006-12-07 05:26:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's strange is what's missing in your question. You say what he does for you and how he treats you, but you are not remotely mentioning those qualities that he has that attract you to *him*. Please forgive me for the harshness of what I am about to say: You could be describing your pet dog.
It is so wonderful that he is such a good man, but this is not enough. You have to also hold him in high esteem. Do you?
You must respect him as a strong man. Do you? Or is he just a lap dog who does your bidding?
You must have respect for his mind. Do you? Or do you just love the way he has respect for yours?
It is not enough that he is in love with you. Are you in love with him, too? You cannot exist on a pedestal. You need to be allowed to be fallible and broken at times, and you need room to grow and change. Will this man let you do that, or are you only his princess?
Do you respect *him*? Or is he the wonderful man who does everything for you that you adore to pieces, but don't, in your bones, truly respect? Is he the best friend you've ever had, but not really the love of your life?
You need to answer these questions for yourself, because soon you may want to have children, or get married... maybe?
2006-12-07 05:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Amsterdam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. i think of i know what you're able to do to restoration this! circulate into some style of isolation. i don't recommend which you're able to lock your self in a room, yet which you're able to desire to take some day off. circulate on a holiday or some place it is near to nature. Have some fairly close pals/or family contributors with you - people who you fairly experience look after and comfortable with. i think of the superb individual may well be a mom or a mom-like parent. attempt to be a newborn lower back - regain the innocence of a newborn. this might open your eyes and placed issues into perspective. what's certainly important? What fairly concerns in existence? not the petty superficial existence offered interior the media - yet real organic existence. then you certainly would be one with your self and grow to be satisfied. this might convey approximately happiness and self assurance. yet differently to do this's to shuttle and notice the international - the forged and undesirable. it consistently helps to determine the bigger image in existence and the international. contain your self with a reason - end poverty, extra suitable education - this type you experience self-worth - you're doing something for the international. courting-smart, consistently choose wisely. do not bounce right into a courting. fairly, i discover this boyfriend/lady chum factor fairly stupid and superficial. Oh, i'm relationship Steve now. Alex? Oh I dumped him final month. OH NO! My ex-boyfriend John is back! What do I do? basically permit issues circulate - don't be forced to devote to something precise now - you're youthful. you have your finished existence earlier to you. Love will come to you, so do not complication approximately attaching your self to absolutely everyone - fantastically and that i recommend fantastically a boyfriend.
2016-12-11 04:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can tell you this if you love him like you say you do nothing should keep you from dating him. Stay with him see how things work out for 2 more months and if you are still having thoughts tell him about them before you make your decision
2006-12-07 05:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by chad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling the need to meet new people & that is completely understadable. You may want to try dating others if your realtionship is not doing well but take into account, that if you let him go he may not be there when your ready to come back.
If he is not the man you want to commit to then get out there & explore but if you love him take care of the relationship.
2006-12-07 05:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by castillo5247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The measure of love is when you love without measure.In life there are very rare chances that you will meet the person you love and loves you in return.So once you have it dont ever let go,the chance might never come your way again.Never abandon a guy who truely loves and cares about you,you will never find one who can take his place.
2006-12-07 05:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a keeper. Your mother is not living with him nor is she ever going to be, you are. So her remarks about dating others are off base. You are in love and I think this guy would be a great one to build a life with.
2006-12-07 05:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by whitneysmother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are looking for reasons to leave him and seeking confirmation.
For that, you have to evaluate your relationship.
Are you as happy as you can be?
Is comfortable better than the terrors of dating?
Is comfortable better than the excitement of dating?
Does bored come into the equation?
Decide for yourself if you can live without him.
2006-12-07 05:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can tell. Anything we say may be the wrong answer for you in this situation. You just have to feel your way through this one.
2006-12-07 05:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by jam_please 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a relationship ther is alot of ups and down..even in marriage..but if you have something good dont ruin it..too many nasty disesaes out there...it is nice to have someone to grow with..just be faithful and hope he is tooo
2006-12-07 05:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur in love... It's tempting when other guys want u too... but by turning them down, u r indeed being faithful to him.. u love him
2006-12-07 05:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋