Is it okay to end a friendship with a long time friend or a BF/GF relationship by just never calling again?

Question

My little sis, who's making changes in her life and because of those changes (good changes), she needs to leave behind her friends.

She asked for my advice on whether she should just stop calling and never call back or sit down and tell them why she's gonna stop hanging out...

What have you done? What made you feel better?

Answer 1

If she is strong enough to make these changes, then she should be strong enough to tell people the truth. Don't be a coward and hide from them. And when she does talk to them, just be sure she doesn't get preachy, and talk down to them for doing the things she used to do. What they do with their lives is up to them. Plus, her strength might give others the motivation to change also.

Long Live Jambi

Answer 2

When I had to change my life, the only way I could do it was by not having my old friends. It is hard but most of them you just have to walk away from and forget about (no call). The real close ones you can let know but it may not be easy. This is something you do for yourself, to better you life so dont worry about other people. Especially if they are a bad influence.

Answer 3

I have been on both ends and it's hard either way. My best friend of over 20 years just quit talking to me and never told me why. I quit talking to a friend after about 8 years because I felt she was constantly doing immoral things, but never had the courage to tell her. She finally quit calling, but I have always felt a little guilty for not being honest with her. If I had to do it over again, I would probably send her a little note explaining why I was cutting off contact.

Answer 4

If she is leaving behind a 'bad element', then that sort of response might be appropriate. They might try and pull her back into the 'life' she is trying to avoid.

However, in most cases, I believe people deserve at least an explaination of why you aren't talking to them any more.

Answer 5

sure, the variety of relationship is obtainable, because of the fact i've got experienced it. I gave examples below, the brother/sister chum is the 1st occasion. on the same time, there'll consistently be some form of sexual/love concepts floating around, whether they on no account show up exterior of one's very own concepts. you prefer to appreciate adventure, so right that's mine. I bear in mind one male chum I had while i became into an adolescent. I on no account had any pastime in this guy, he became into an extremely superb guy or woman, clever, friendly, and humorous. I knew him for about 2 years, so the only time we had became into to advance a brother/sister relationship. Had we oftentimes used one yet another for longer, possibly different issues might have superior. you notice, with each and each close male chum i've got ever had, there has been some sexual stress to a minimum of one degree or yet another. there is one i understand, and we've on no account executed something actual, yet we did like one yet another very lots at one time, and have been thinking courtship, yet we did not do this inspite of each thing. I fell in love with him on the time, and it became into organic love because of the fact it did not sprout from any actual touch, no. because of the fact that then, i've got had different male pastimes and he's now married with babies, yet in element of actuality that I on no account fell with him. I nonetheless have emotions for him, yet i don't tell him. I admire his marriage and enjoyed ones. As for the different close male acquaintances i've got had, some I even have kissed, and with others it became into greater suitable than kissing. that's some thing i'm not pleased with, and alhamdulillah i finished this habit 14 years in the past. i'm going to on no account return to that, that is shameful. If i'm not on the element of a male, and we are purely acquaintances, then no, there is not any sexual stress.

Answer 6

Congrats on her changes, I would tell me friends that I may not be around for awhile, no need to go into a big explanation. To not say anything isn't really right, because she was friends with them.

Answer 7

My daughter in law had to just drop some bad friends when she married my son, some were old boyfriends, some were internet pals, but she did it and has made some really great girl friends and they are better girlfriends too.

Answer 8

I think to completely walk away you need to tell them why you can't hang with them. Who knows once you explain it they may make a change too.

Answer 9

If it is because she needs to get away from drug abuse or something else dangerous, it is perfectly fine to just never call them again. Been there, done that. But just because you want to break up for someone else or something that is wrong.

Answer 10

remember that its always rude to just disappear without a word... tell your sis to have conviction and face the problem. if you think about it, even the lost pets are being looked for - what more someone who's special, right?