I am a single male in my 26th year of life. I'm well off, with a steady job, nice apt (soon to be house from the help of my parents), car, etc etc.
I just found out that i'm going to be a father and I do not know how to approach a few people about it (my parents & family specificly and another girl i've been seeing on & off for about 4 years) Me and the mother have decided to stay single and try to be the best damn single parents we can but at the same time, i'm nervous & excited about the news. Any suggestions?
2006-12-07 05:11:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What a tangled web we weave. You play with fire, your going to get burnt. The easy part is going to be letting your parents know that they are going to be grandparents but probably not by the one they thought.
The hard part is letting the girl that you have been seeing off and on for the past 4 years know that you have a baby on the way. I know that if I was in her shoes, that would be the end of us. You are cheating on both of these women and that is so wrong.
As far as the baby goes, even though it's mom don't want to get married, you will still have the responsibility of supporting the baby. And being a father to him/her as well.
Talk about changing your life......you don't know the half of how much that baby is going to change your life. There are going to be changes in your life that you are NOT going to like. And some that you will.
2006-12-07 06:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your plan in your mind. Try to think about the questions they are going to ask, and have answers ready. You're not going to look good if you're saying "Umm" and "Uhh."
Marriage is an option, but a marriage based simply on a pregnancy seems like it may be a rocky one. Marriage is a great institution, but in some situations it is not the best option. Even while staying single, you can provide a lot of love and support for your child and your child's mother. In my humble opinion, a bad marriage is worse than no marriage at all.
Best wishes to you, the expectant mother, and your child.
2006-12-07 13:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by tampasmiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married. It's all well and good for you and this woman to "decide to stay single" but that's what you want- not what's right for the baby. You might be able to approach people if you did what you knew was right.
2006-12-07 13:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First and foremost, get a lawyer. He will need to tell you your rights. No matter how great you and the mother get along, you better start protecting yourself right now. As for telling others, tell only the ones you care to tell, if they love you, they will understand. No one else need to know your business. Good luck.
2006-12-07 13:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by Catie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are going to find out sometime just sit them down and tell them good luck
2006-12-07 13:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you should get married and raise the poor baby together....AS A FAMILY.
2006-12-07 13:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first i think you and your girlfriend sound very responceable,so dont put off telling those that are very close to you,i think they will be very proud of you for bing so honest to them,and good luck.just go talk to them,now..
2006-12-07 13:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
start saving lots of money cause your going to need all of it you can get
as for your parents and other girlfriend....tell them SOON...
2006-12-07 13:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur family is gonna find out anyways so its probably better sooner or later...as for the the other girl...YOU DISGUST ME!!!!! only if you two were goin out at the time u got the girl pregnant...
2006-12-07 13:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by TrueHappiness<3 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just tell them, its their choice how to react.
2006-12-07 13:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋