I am very sad and unhappy!!!
2006-12-07 05:10:34 · 21 answers · asked by ZIGGY0311 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Tell him to go on the next Promise Keepers weekend. Look up scriptures in the bible about honering your wife, loving your wife and tell him he needs to write a sermon on it and when he does, tell him he needs to follow it! Hope you get through to your man!
2006-12-07 05:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by wish I were 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Okay, I am not a practicing Christian, but I do know the Bible so I will tell you that God is supposed to come first in the life of a Believer, and to a Pastor, that means he has to take care of his commotment to God first, that includes his charge; the church. I'm sure he loves you, and I know also that God doesn't put on anyone more than they can bear. When you and your husband became married, you were made as one in the eyes of God, that puts responsibilities/hardships on you too I know. I'm only saying all of this so that maybe you can better understand the position your husband is in. If you can see that he does have an obligation to God, and understand, then talk to him and tell him how you feel, maybe the both of you can try a little harder to realize the others needs.
Good Luck
2006-12-07 13:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by amondriscoll 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A man who takes the lead in a congregation does have a heavy responsibility to that congregation, but he also has a heavy responsibility toward his family. Do a little research and show him, using scripture, the way that a husband is supposed to treat his wife. Sit down and talk with him about it...don't preach to him about it. That will only cause problems. A Christian man has an obligation to care for the needs (spiritual, physical and emotional) of his wife. That obligation and the way a husband cares for it is a very important factor in having God's approval or disapproval. Being a pastor, you'd think he'd know that already, but some men have a tendency to focus too much on one aspect of life and forget about the rest. Seems like most men have tunnel vision, so we, as women, do have to cut them a little slack for having been made differently than we are.
As a woman with a husband who is aspiring to be a congregation elder, my husband spends a great deal of time taking on more and more responsibility in that regard. I've found that devoting more of my time to spiritual things myself helps.
2006-12-07 13:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly L 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i'm so sorry you're going through this - it has to be very difficult. unfortunately, i'm Catholic and it's a little foreign to me. however, when i spoke to my pastor about the marriage issue once - he said pretty much what you're saying. when a man gives his life to the church -- She is his first bride, the wife becomes the second. it's often a challenge. here's a thought.... see if there is a pastoral retreat in your area or a time frame that fits -- then attend - together. does he know you're feeling this way?
this is a challenging committment and I pray it will all work out for you!
God bless!!!
2006-12-07 13:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Marysia 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is difficult for people in ministry, to care for those closest to them while serving others. I have had friends who went into the ministry and also had this very conversation. I think you will have to talk to him about it and make sure he understands your needs. His first obligation is to his family. You could also talk to other pastor's wives and see if they are in a similar situation. A little counseling is also an idea. You both need each other's support to do this. I hope things can change for the best.
2006-12-07 13:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
oh! u should talk to your husband!
Let him have a new work if u r rich u can help him & when did u marry? If u have married in this year without any sex or... that's a big problem if you are a christion afcorss u kissed him if he tell no he don't love u any more or he don't want to change his jobe the father told me when I married in 2005 that if your husband did not want to listen to you or don't bealeave you just go & kiss him & put your thoung inside his mouth just go on kissing him till he bealeav's you the father told that.
2006-12-07 13:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by sisa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you havent talk o him about your feelings. Sounds like if you havent MAYBE he dosent realize this or if you have spoken to him then sounds like his biggest priority isnt his wife. It IS sad and its terrible you have to be unhappy and you dont have to be. If talking dosent do the trick,give him an ultimatum. You got married to have a husband,not some man that sleeps in your bed and disappears all the time,EVEN for God.
2006-12-07 13:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I'm catholic and this is a reason why priest don't get married. It let's them focus on the church and it's needs. Your husband does have responsibility to the church and you should have known that before you got married. But what you should do is be their for him.
2006-12-07 13:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by cfursa 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Discuss it with him. Tell him you are jealous of the attention he gives to the church while taking you for granted. Maybe flirt with him a little more to grab his attention.
2006-12-07 13:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Zed 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is very hard to Be a man of God and a Husband at the same time.
Talk to him about your concerns, and pray about it also.
This is why Catholics don't have married Priests, I am not sure that I understand that 100%, but there are some valid points, this is one.
Peace, and God Bless you and your Family!
2006-12-07 13:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by C 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋