I am 19 and have only recently kissed a guy for the first time. I haven't done anything after that, and now I'm nervous that once I do go out with a guy, he will be totally turned off by my inexperience. Should I get a guy quick, or can I still wait for one that really catches my fancy?
Also, I am pretty shy and can act a bit standoffish - I am not a very good flirt! Does this make me less approachable to guys?
Thanks!
2006-12-07 04:57:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sweetie, you are much much better off waiting for the right man to come into your life. Allowing yourself to lower your standards will only hurt you. Don't allow peer pressure to influence your decision to remain a virgin. That by the way means more than in a sexual way.
Any man who truly values you for who you are will never be repulsed by your lack of experience. In fact, he would be honored by it because he will know that you have high standards, and that he too has finally met the woman who also fits into his high standards as well.
You are right to wait. Your future husband will deeply respect you for doing so.
2006-12-07 05:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that waiting is worth it.
Also, some people do take a little getting to know before they open up to someone new. Sounds like you may be one of them. There's nothing wrong about that.
The guys that will 1) take notice of you even though you are shy, and 2) will take the time to try to get to know you, are probably going to be better guys than the ones easily attracted by a flirt.
I highly recommend starting all relationships with friendship first. There are a couple of reasons. First, you get to know each other before establishing strong romantic emotional ties. Second, if a romance does blossom, but then comes to an end, you may be able to fall back on the friendship.
One of my best friends is an ex-girlfriend. My family still accepts her as family, and her family accepts me in the same way. We started with friendship, and now we continue to be great friends. Yes, initially it was awkward, but it can be done--men and women CAN just be friends.
2006-12-07 05:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by tampasmiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into anything, but be more open or you might miss a lot of good and bad experiences which will help you in the future.
Try to find a way in which you can express your self and at the same time BEING YOURSELF flirt a little but not too much.
And all this takes practice to get good at. So start working
2006-12-07 05:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Diego Rivera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a guy and I'm kind of shy so what u r go though a lil bit. But he should like u for who u are .Not if u can flirt and and be want he want u to be . Be u self don't let anyone change u . Be u god bless
2006-12-07 05:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by marlon G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, this may make you more of a turn on for men. Dont' stress out about it though. Hold out til you find someone you are comfortable with to take it to the next level. If not you will regret it. :)
2006-12-07 05:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like girls who are pure. Be proud of that and dont worry about going out a flirting and hoeing around.
2006-12-07 05:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend was 21 and she hadn't really kissed a guy. I've taught her what I can and she's willing to learn. Now she's no longer a virgin. It doesn't matter as long as you are willing to try and learn, and he is willing to be patient and help you.
2006-12-07 05:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by Tim H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish more girls took there time like you, but if need a QUICK GUY
as you said, i'm more than willing to help you with needs
(trimonl@yahoo.com)
2006-12-07 05:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by ladiesman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r too young for that,study well,don't look 4 love it will get to you in the right time,don't waist your time with any one who doesn't deserve you,and in the right time your husband will make you feel all the great sensation you need
2006-12-07 05:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by ahotrealmanforyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait. you will find the guy thatb is right for you soon enough. what is the rush anyway? all sex cause is a lot of problems.
2006-12-07 05:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋