My aunt has starting dating her friend. They have been friends for years and years, before I was born I think. They used to date when they were in their 20s but parted as friends. They are now in their 40s.
He is a widower. His wife died 4 years ago. He is still grieving for his wife. Some things my aunt has told me about his grieving makes me worried that she is just a replacement and she is going get hurt.
Does he really love and want to be with her?
2006-12-07 04:52:50 · 12 answers · asked by hunnypot_uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your aunt is in her 40's- she's old enough to make her own choices. If she's worried enough, she'll stop seeing him.
2006-12-07 04:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We cant say for sure if he loves her or not. Sometimes people get really hurt when they lose somebody they love and it is really hard to let go. Your aunt has to find out if he is really ready to move on and start a new relationship. He might really care about your aunt and may not be using her as a replacement, but as a person he can talk openly with, a person he can really be himself around. If she wants to stay in this relationship with him, she might have to learn how to deal with him still not getting over the past, and maybe try to help him work through it. That is a tough one.
2006-12-07 04:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first love is hard to lose. How long ago did she die? He may just be looking for sympathy and this is why he grieves so much. Your aunt is an adult, and there is always the possibility that you can get hurt in a relationship. If she is feeling like a fill in she should evaluate if this is where she wants to be and if she can deal with his needs.
2006-12-07 04:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 4 years I do not think she is a replacement. But think about it, if his wife died she is sort of a replacement but in a good way. Its not like she is just some "rebound chick". Don't worry about it. Especially if they have been friends for awhile I think she would know if he wasnt right for her.
2006-12-07 04:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how much he loved his wife..sometimes a lifetime isn't enough to get over a person u love...ur aunt might just be that. but i guess there is no harm in having fun, even if u r 40, 50 whatever..why shouldn't she take her chances right?
2006-12-07 04:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still grieve and love someone else.
That does not make her second choice.
The first time they dated they just were not right for each other,
Life changes who you are by experiences all the time.
2006-12-07 05:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by jrnwy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may love your aunt or just her companionship but she will never reach the place that his wife once did....its reserved for only her.
2006-12-07 04:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by daloveman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a possibility...but you never know what can develop. The best loves grow from close friendships, but she does need to be careful.
2006-12-07 04:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by littleredbrainpower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know man but the only one who can know him is your aunt becaues she know him clearly so she is the only one who get the answer
2006-12-07 04:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by lover boy 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he's still upset doesn't mean that he can't lover your aunt more.
2006-12-07 04:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by spud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋