we have been together for a year and now things are changing we use to spend every minute together..but now its different he's always on the street because he decides he wants to sell drugs so he can get me and my son nice xmas gifts..but I told him whatever his job want allow him to buy us we dont need it...he's out there in the cold standing at a gas station all night so last night I tried to break up with him..I told him either the streets or me because I am worried about him..he told me, he's going to continue to do this until a few days before christamas and Im not going no where he needs me now more than ever..What should I do?
2006-12-07 04:52:22 · 34 answers · asked by T-MAC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since he doesn't understand plain English, tell him again and tell him you will call the police if he goes out there again.
2006-12-07 04:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLAN A:
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1. Get a cat and place it in a tree and put a dog at the base of the tree so it can't get down.
2. Call the police to your home. Ask them to get the cat out of your tree....ohhh he is down now. Thanks... Bu bye!
3. Then when ur bf comes home tell him the police were here today asking questions about him. If he lived here, if we was known to sell drugs, etc. they got a complaint.
4. Tell him 'they are on to you. So just clean up and stop now.' I told them you dont live here.
5. If he asks the neighbors then they will say 'yeah the police came today to your house'.
6. Scare the living sh-ite out of him!
7. Now threaten to leave him unless he for real stops.
8. He will (for awhile, until your cat gets stuck again ;)
Be a little clever to protect yourself and help this ignoramous.
See you need the police to get the job done.
The fear of punishment is the only thing here.
But you can use them in a way that get's the job done and saves everyone's a-ss.
So the cops burn a little petrol. Give them some donuts for their trouble when they come.
You goal is to get the job done harming the least amount of people. Who says you can't be clever and innovative?
This guy is going to piss petroleum in this pants!
lol
P.S. Before you actually do this think it through and make sure it will work for your situation. He may think no one knows where he lives and then he will suspect you. So be careful. Don't leave 911 on your redialer or call logs. After dialing 911 call another number of a friend so that number is logged if he hits redial.
If you don't have a cat or a tree then ask for one of each for Xmas.
sorry i couldnt help that.
PLAN B.
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okay...
just leave and call him from your next location (untracable number).
say "HI! Happy Xmas...thanks for all the gifts...See you on Xmas at 12pm...if we are not there then just start without us. Take care hun. Have fun."
If he wants to argue or demands an explanation don't entertain him, say "we already discussed that hun and I am okay with your decision. Carry on. I am carrying on over here until you change your mind. No pressure. Take your time."
Don't discuss the issue anymore. You will only agitate one another. Now make your move.
Show him you mean business and be friendly and that you care for him. Just keep your distance until he changes. No need to end anything right now except your physical proximity to him.
Treat him like he has chicken pox. Quarantine him. Don't get near him until he is cured. Just call and ask how he is, how was your day, etc.... Why go into all the drama of break up, etc. ?
Eventually he will get the message or he will stop talking to you on the phone. Let him end the relationship, You need to end the physical contact right now. He will either choose you or the drug trade. If he chooses the drug trade he will eventually just stop answering your calls then you are safe and free.
If he changes then you have worked a miracle and I will have earned my nasty little 10 points.
2006-12-07 05:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like some drama. Selling drugs is an excuse for some fast money.
I'm not gonna sit here on some moral high horse and tell you what you should do, but do you want that as an example for your SON on what a man should do when in a pinch? Sure, I can admire him wanting to do something for your kid. YOU should tell him to work his legit job for your son, and you go without. Christmas gifts are for people 12 years old and under, its called sacrificing for the better good of all.
I'd be most concerned with what type of future man you are raising, then some knucklehead that can't pull himself up by his bootstraps, kick in and work a legitimate job!
2006-12-07 04:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him more than you love your son? I don't know of many women in jail that get to keep their kids (you know, since you know about your boyfriend's "lifestyle and business", that makes you an accomplice). And when he tells you that he deals to get you and your son nice christmas presents...yeah, right. I knew a guy who said that he'd "rob and kill" for his daughter, and I believe he will, if he has to, but he will not put a single hour of overtime in his legitimate job, which really sums up what I want to say about your boyfriend. I could tell you to leave him, that you'll be better off, that he's probably selling drugs to support his own habit (and possibly yours), but I know you're not going to do it. I hope you guys find the good way because he won't last long on the streets. Maybe he won't even make it for Christmas. Best wishes to the three of you.
2006-12-07 05:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by guicho79 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really need to think about what you are doing. This isn't about you or your dope dealing b/f. Think about your son for a minute. Selling drugs at a gas station is very dangerous, he can get caught by the cops, what if he gets followed home and has drugs on him. You are risking losing your child over this. Is it really worth it, just for some stupid x-mas gifts you don't even need? You are truly putting you son in danger and thats the real issue here and you need to realize it!!!!!!
2006-12-07 04:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay. He's right, right now he does need you more than ever. My boyfriend sells drugs as well and I worry about him but I understand that it's not as easy as it looks, he has to constantly be aware of the fact that he might be serving the police, make sure they are not watching him, count money to be sure he's not being shorted and watch his back to make sure no one is about to try and rob him. If you nag him it will only throw him off seeing as though he is doing this for you ALL. I'm not saying what he is doing is right, but the only thing you can do for an adult is support their decision, especially if you care about them, they will do what they want to do regardless. And I know exactly what you mean by him not spending a lot of time with you anymore but try to look at it this way if he's with you all the time he's not making money but if he's not with you and he's doing what he's supposed to be doing you'll reap the rewards. I do know that life is about sacraficing and sometimes to get what we need we have to give up some of the things we like.
And never ever ever call the police on him, this will show that you really dont care. And know that you can keep him out of jail even though he is doing this but he has to know you are supportive of his decision or when you ask him to come in early he'll think your just finding another way to get your way.
I hope this helps
2006-12-07 05:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mamacita 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, for starters, how did he even begin saling drugs? I know you may not want to do this, but if he is not going to listen to you, then he isn't going to listen to anyone until the police catch him in action. And don't believe that he's going to stop saling drugs, because it will become addicting to him. Especially if he hasn't had a real job. I know a lot of people who sold and still are saling srugs, and a number of them either wound up dead or in jail. You need to let him know those types of dangers out there, and don't get involved with him, because you could be in deeper water. The streets are never safe, especially when it comes to saling drugs, prostitution and gang bangin'. If he won't listen, let him go, because you'll regret staying with him afterwards.
Krazy Libra
2006-12-07 04:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey ,if he get's caught then that's his problem you have already told him how you feel, I wouldn't believe him, he told you it will stop, no he isn't he will always sell drugs it's good and fast money. if he loved you and your son he would of chosen you over selling drugs, i am sorry but you need to get out, you have a son involved would you want him to sell drugs on the streets to.if he finds out about your boyfriend selling and finds out there is good money in it he will be just like him, take him away from this, he not being a positive romodel for your son and he surely has no respect for either of you....please do what your intuition tells you it's always right.
2006-12-07 05:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, have you thought about the danger or better yet has he thought about the effects this could have on your child if he gets caught, or hurt. dealing is a cop out. if he will jeopardize you and your child for some presents then what will he do to survive a REAL LIFE situation? And do not let him put you on the "I'm doing it for you, and our child" guilt trip. because hes not. hes doing it for his pride. remember he keeps using the words "I'm, and Me" when you try to talk to him so sit back and think what does that tell you. a real man would go get a second part-time job if he needed extra money, not ignore the possible consequences of his actions that may effect you and your child in a negative way. that's not love honey, that's greed!
2006-12-07 05:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by robinskylynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this is, it's not going to get any better, and you are at the risk of losing everything you hold dear, including your home and your son. I've been there done that. It's the scariest thing in the world to strike out on your own, but it is the only way you will be happy, and still SAFE. I'm sorry, but I would try to get out as quickly as you can, and make sure you cover your trail, because he will come after you, especially when everyone else he knows refuse to help him destroy himself. Be careful. And good luck to you. Be strong.
2006-12-07 04:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should pray for him. Drug dealers are no good. They are just a homicide statistic waiting to happen. And most distributors are also users and a drug filled home life where daddy isnt ever at home is not a good way to influence your son. I would definitely pack up my stuff, get my son, and leave the guy.
2006-12-07 05:00:08 · answer #11 · answered by Ranger075 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋