what does it mean when he says we should slow things down?

Question

we have been together for only two weeks but things were going great, we spent alote of time together and it seemed like he loved having me around even told me he couldnt wait to see me agian, but i asked him to come to my house couse i had some things to do at home and for some odd reason it was well i think we should slow down. so iam very confused now, couse i thought things were going good and he says i might have mis interprited it, if i did then then how can i trust how it seems he feels? i am serously thinking about ending it all together i dont want to be on an emotional roller coaster..

Answer 1

It means he's not that into you!!!

I don't want to be negative but that's the truth read the book titled with that phrase.

Just tell him ok we will take things very very slow no kissing no hugging no nothing if we are going to get to know each other we should start by knowing each other better and we can do that by talking and spending time together but no need to kiss since we don't want to push you.

Answer 2

Who knows what it means when he says you should slow things down. Boys are strange that way. What really matters is what you do now.

1. Don't try to keep talking to him, don't ask him what's wrong, don't call. Act as though the incident is done and forgotten. Wait for him to initiate contact. Don't be mean or nasty though. Just be busy doing other things (at least that what he needs to think).
2. Don't ask him to your house. Maybe he felt you wanted to move things along faster than he wanted by a) meeting your parents or b) being alone where things could go to far.
3) Don't always be available when he wants to see you. Tell him you have plans. Go hang out with your girlfriends, go home and read a book, help your Mom do the laundry.

Two weeks is a short time. You can't learn much about someone in two weeks. Go slow. If he wants to be near you, he will realize it. If he doesn't, there's no reason to waste your time or emotions.

Most of all, don't plan your time around him. Make him work to see you. It may seem devious, but men need to realize women are worth the effort. Too many women drop everything when a man enters their lives, only to be left with a lot of emptiness when the relationship ends.

Answer 3

Maybe he has to be in control. Maybe he felt that you would be "easier" on his turf. If he wants to slow down maybe he has taken a ride on the emotional roller coaster you mentioned and is still dizzy. What ever the reason it may be time to visit another amusement park. I am sure there will be someone in line waiting for the ride who loves a faster experience.

Answer 4

it is a guy sway of starting the process of saying good bye
sorry to say this
but you need to change the way you say and do things NOW
so he feels like he has a new girlfriend, make him Happy again like you did when you two first got together, sit down and do some real hard thinking on how and what you need to do IF YOU really want to keep him,
is he worth all the trouble, is he really worth you changing yourself?
think about it
and if you say NO
then tell him we need to make a STOP not a slow down. do not waist to much time, time goes y fast enough anyways

good luck
smile

Answer 5

He found himself another girl if not then he is interrested in another girl and two week u really need to slow down. It took me and my baby 9 mouths just to tell each other how we feel about each other my last ex told me he love me after 4 weeks in the relationship and I hung the phone up on his face thats why we aint together. If u really want him
then u need to slow down, before u know it he might already have another cause u cant slow the hell down.

Answer 6

By slowing down, it means that you're doing too much-too fast.

I had the same problem with a girl I was dating. We used to spend a lot of time together...ALL THE TIME. But I was afraid that by spending so much time with her from the start, I would get sick of her. So we slowed things down and cut back on hanging out every single day.

Maybe this guy likes you and doesn't want to get sick of you so he wants to cut back....that's perfectly normal

Answer 7

Seeing someone for about 9 months. She sent me text messages and voice mails and emails that said stuff like, Roses are Red Voilets are Blue if you only knew how I felt about you. We were really passionate. Had sex at lunch, after work, before work. She would come to my house and I would go to hers. We would hook up in the parking lot of the mall and get it on. At parks, just anywhere and really any time. Super passionate. We spent quality time together just strolling through a park, going out dancing, hell I even went shopping with her.

Both of us are going through a divorce, and we really felt strong about each other. I screwed up last month and while we were laying in bed after a 2 hour love making session, I said the three words. I couldn't hold back any longer. It was oozing out of my pores in my skin. I really felt like I loved her and wanted her to feel as good about herself as she made me feel about myself when I felt like she loved me as much. So I told her. "When I look in your eyes, I can see forever. From my fingers to my toes, I love everything about you." I didn't want this to happen right now, but I have to let you know how I feel. I love you".

The next week, she wants to slow things down, don't want me to be intimate with her, just wants to be friends. It was a risk I took, and I felt like I needed to share how I felt about her. If I had it to do all over again, I would have just bit my tongue. What we had was something I havn't had in a long long time.

Now, we just talk. I'm trying my damndest to get back with her. But she said she's not ready for that strong of a relationship.

So did you screw up and tell him you loved him? Don't do it. Just tell him you enjoy his company and that's the reason you want to see him. If you are having sex with him, tell him you miss that. If that's all he wants right now, and you're ok with it, then let him know.

Good luck! Give him the space he needs. Else you won't see him at all.

Answer 8

Things are moving way too fast....meaning too much info has been disclosed all at once. Sometimes we like people the less we know about them. Be patient you cant get it all in two weeks time.

Answer 9

well if you've already had sex then that could be the reason that he said he couldn't wait to see you,two weeks and you've already put out,but if you haven't had sex he my just have issues that you two should sit and talk about like what you both want out of this or any relationship.
don't be afraid to be blunt let him know what you're thinking.

Answer 10

He might have thought you wanted to have sex and move things to the next level. It doesn't sound like he wants to end things though it just sounds like he likes moving at a slower pace with you. I wouldn't give up on him yet.