My dad was never there for me for most of my life. Now he is there for me now and I live with him. I have my mom's last name but I want to change it to my dad's last name. Some people think it is a stupid idea. Some people say that I should not change it because I am a female and I will just get married and it will change again anyways. I don't even know if my dad will want to share his last name with me. Then there is my half brother and half sister. (we share the same father but have different mothers) They have our dad's last name too and I don't know if they would want me to have their last name. They don't live in the same state as we do. Their mom and our dad got a divorce and now they don't even get to see my dad or talk to him because their mom wont let them. So anyways.....I don't know if I should change my last name because my mom will be upset. I don't know what to do. Please help. Thank you.
2006-12-07 04:28:54 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
there are several ways to approach it,,,, and i think the first step would be to discuss it with your Dad... it realy isnt important what his other children think, concerning this issue...... it may be possible for your dad to simply fill out paper work, at the county where you live,,,,,,, call the local clerk of your county for information on it,,,,,,,,, if you already have a social security card then you would need to change that also,,,,,,,,,if your under 18, you would need your Dad to help you with this, after 18 you can change your name to anything you want,, with or without his approval,,,,,,,
2006-12-07 04:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was born having my mum last name. But my parents were married at the time but my dad was out of the country when I was born. They were having alot of problems and were thinking about dicvore. But then they got back together and change my name to my dad.
At the time I was like 3 years old. I grew up and change my name because of a family fight. Anyway, I think if that you need to think about what YOU want.
You wnat to share you father name....TELL HIM and talk to him about it. Write him a letter .... make a sign having the new name as gift to express your love for him. Tell him that you want to build a relationship with him and want start by sharing a name with him. Find out all the detail and this will help you make a deicision.
2006-12-07 04:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Would Just Keep It The Same Legally Its Too Much Of A Hassle To Change It However I Would Use It As An Alias If You Really Like It. You Can Use Alias On A Lot Of Things Including School Records.
2006-12-07 04:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by Paradise * 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have the right to have your fathers last name no matter who thinks you should or not. Your half brother and sister didnt have to ask you wether or not to change it. As far as your mother goes no matter what your last name is your still her daughter. If she does get upset just tell her it will change when you get married anyway and you had her last name for part of your life so now its only fair to to take your dad last name for awile. The idea isnt that far fetched since it is tradition.
2006-12-07 04:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is talk to your Father about this. Understand that this is going to cost you several hundred dollars to do, and that depending on your age, once the name change is done, you will have to go change a lot of different records. RE: social security, Drivers license, birth certificate, etc. If you and your Father agree to this, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. It is yours and your Father's decision.
2006-12-07 04:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by FastDyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, Leave it! There is no need to change it...everybody knows you as whatever your last name is now, why go through all the hassle. I'm sure you dad won't necessarily care and if he does then thats pretty stupid because he should have took care of it then! But I understand how u must feel...Leave your last name because you will eventually get married- Good luck with your situation!
2006-12-07 04:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not think you should change your last name to your father name. Your mother has taken care of you for majority of your life and now he is stepping in I don't think he deserves that much but hey to each its own. Your mother gave you her last name for a good reason. Stick with your mothers name.
2006-12-07 04:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by wise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her youre name is like youre identity you have had youre mothers last name for all of youre life, You have been knowen with this name, you grew up with this name why change it know. Your dad will be your dad and you will be you and thats what counts isn't it?
2006-12-07 04:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and change it. Talk to your dad first. I'm betting he will probaby not want you to.
When you get married you don't have to change your last name either.
If your mom gets upset, that's reasonable, but you have to live with your name.
2006-12-07 04:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by coutterhill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One do know how much it cost to change your last name, alot more than it is probably worth. Either way I really would not worry about it, your last name does not change who you are.
2006-12-07 05:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋